Kael Coster

Loving the shift this year running more school programs, workshops, and public speaking gigs 🥰🙏

Kael Coster has been a martial arts instructor for almost 20 years.

Now, he uses his skills as a mentor to pass down methods of emotional awareness to young people over a nine week program.

Focusing on key values of discipline, resilience, and breathwork technique, Mr Coster delivers a program in partnership with Longwarry Primary School.

Teachers involved in the program at Longwarry are already seeing ideas filter back into classrooms.

Ready to slow down, reset & reconnect?

Join Kael for a guided Biodynamic Breathwork session at Tribe MMA

No experience needed, no performance required, just show up as you are.

✨Release stress
✨Calm the nervous system
✨Reconnect with yourself

Limited spots available. Book now.

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Most people think anxiety is a thinking problem.

It isn’t.

Anxiety lives in the body. In a nervous system that’s been running threat responses long after the threat has passed. You can think your way to understanding that. You can’t think your way out of it.

The breath is different.

It’s the only part of your autonomic nervous system you can consciously control.
Slow it down and you’re talking directly to the part of you that’s been running the show. Not your mind. Your body.

Six slow belly breaths. Heart rate drops. Blood pressure drops. Cortisol starts to clear. That’s not wellness talk. That’s physiology.

This is why breathwork moves things that years of therapy sometimes doesn’t. Not because therapy is wrong. Because some things need a different entry point.

I’ve been doing this work in various forms for over a decade. With trauma survivors, burnt out professionals, people who’ve tried everything else and still feel the same underneath.

I’ve seen this shift things in two hours that people had been carrying for years.

The breath doesn’t lie. And it doesn’t need you to understand it for it to work.

Monthly biodynamic breathwork.
Warragul. Small group. Proper container.
Capped at 25 people.

📅 Friday 29 May · 7:30pm
📍 Tribe MMA, Warragul
🎫 $49 — link in bio

“Thus all the beauty and the horrors of this world arise from the same root: the presence or absence of love. Not feeling loved and then taking that to heart is the only wound there is. It cripples us, causing us to shrivel and contract.

Thus, apart from a few biochemical imbalances and neurological disorders, the diagnostic manual for psychological afflictions known as the DSM might as well begin: “Herein are described all the wretched ways people feel and behave when they do not know that they are loved.”

All hatred of ourselves and others; all our fear, egoism, communication problems, and sexual insecurities; all the pathology, neurosis, and destructiveness in the world; and the whole nightmare of history, with all its bloodshed and cruelty, boil down to one simple fact:
Not knowing we are loved and lovable makes the heart grow cold.

And all the tragedy of human life follows from there.

When people do not know they are loved, a cold black hole forms in the psyche, where they start to harbor beliefs that they’re insignificant, unimportant, or lacking in beauty and goodness.

This icy place of fear is what gives rise to terrorist attacks of all kinds-not just in the form of bombs
going off, but also in the emotional assaults that go on within ourselves and our relationships.

…

On the collective level, this deep wound in the human psyche leads to a world wracked by struggle, stress, and dissension. Communities and social institutions at every level - marriages, families, schools, churches, corporations, and nations all across the globe-are in disarray, divided against themselves. The greatest ills on the planet-war, poverty, economic injustice, ecological degradation-all stem from our inability to trust one another, honor differences, engage
in respectful dialogue, and reach mutual understanding.”

Perfect love, imperfect relationships. Wellwood J.

A beautiful excerpt from a reading from my Buddhist Psychology course this weekend I felt compelled to share 🙏 drop an emoji if you read this far 🥰

I'm tired.

Not the kind of tired sleep fixes. The kind that settles in your chest when you scroll through the world and can't make sense of what we're doing to each other.

Wars that don't need to happen. Atrocities that scroll past like content. A r@pe website. 62 million visits. Sixty. Two. Million.

I sit with that number as a man who spends his weeks working with survivors of exactly this. Exactly what other men have done.

I'm also a father of two girls. AND, when I look at the men in my life, I see beautiful humans. Men I would trust to look after my daughters without a second thought. That's real too.

I also know what it looks like to stand next to a woman I loved many years ago, black eye from her then ex husband, and hear her entire circle pretend not to see it. Friends. Family. People who knew exactly where it came from. I was one of the only ones who said something. I shouldn't have been.

She told me once about a guy at a local cafe, let’s call him Chris, who just put a silent hand on her shoulder. No words. And how much it meant to feel seen when everyone else looked away.

I get why women don't feel safe around men. Around me. That's not an attack on who I am. It's just honest. When the numbers are what they are, when 62 million visits happen, when black eyes get looked past at dinner tables, the wariness isn't paranoia. It's survival.

The frustration I feel about that, about being what I consider a normal good human, and still being looked at sideways, I've learned that feeling is not the point. It's information. What I do with it is the point.

The men causing this aren't strangers in dark alleys. They're at our barbecues. In our group chats. They're the ones everyone quietly protects because calling it out is uncomfortable and Christmases get weird.

That silence is a decision. Every single time.

I'm not interested in men who say ‘not all men’ and then do nothing with that. I want to hear from men who pulled a mate aside. Who said that's not okay out loud at a table. Who sat with their son and had the conversation before the internet did it for them.

We are raising boys right now who are watching everything. Learning what men do and don't do. What they let slide and what they won't.

I think about the state of the world a lot. The scale of the cruelty. The wars. The sites with 62 million visits. The sheer grinding weight of how much suffering men are responsible for.

And then just now reflecting and writing this, I think about a guy in a cafe, putting his hand on a woman's shoulder, and saying nothing, and meaning everything.

The size of the problem and the size of the solution are not the same thing. They never were.

As a man, as a clinician, as a father, a lover. I’ll keep saying something. More of us need to, even when it costs us something.

Especially then.

Something I’ve wanted to do again for a long time is finally happening.

From Wednesday April 22nd, I’ll be seeing clients from Warragul Natural Health.

And... in May i start at Inscape Psychology once a month in Balnarring, Mornington Peninsula.

I grew up the nerdy introverted kid reading fantasy books, doing yoga and tai chi, playing harmonica. Bullied, assaulted, raised by a single mum. I found martial arts at 16 and spent the next decade trying to fight my way out of the pain and unworthiness.

Over 100 amateur / tournament fights. 27 professional bouts. Multiple title belts across Muay Thai, Kickboxing, K1 and MMA. Multiple black belts.

“I’ll be happy and enough when...” 😵‍💫

The title belts and black belts didn’t fix it. Therapy did. Breathwork did. Yoga philosophy, Kashmir Shaivism and Buddhist psychology did. Years of sitting with teachers and my own darkness until something actually shifted.

Now I’m a registered counsellor, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic psychotherapist, and biodynamic breathwork practitioner. I work with people carrying the same weight I used to carry; anxiety, depression, burnout, overwhelm, that low-grade feeling something is off and you can’t name it.

We service our car every 10,000km so it doesn’t blow a head gasket. Most people drive 400,000km without once looking under the hood of their own mind.

Your mind runs everything. How happy you are in life and relationships. How you sleep, work, train, parent, and show up for the people you love.

I’ve worked with a therapist, teacher or supervisor weekly for 7 years and I’ll do it for life, because I know what it’s worth.

The work I do isn’t talk therapy. We don’t just retell the story. We work with the body, the subconscious, and the nervous system to actually shift what’s been stuck, sometimes for years.

Wednesdays from April 22nd at Warragul.

📍 Warragul Natural Health, Warragul

Saturdays once a month in Balnarring

📍 Inscape Psychology (Starting May), Balnarring

Link in bio to book.

📞 0485 938 847

Registered Counsellor (CPCA) · Clinical Hypnotherapist (AHA) · Somatic Psychotherapist • resource therapy · Biodynamic Breathwork (BBTRS) · Yoga Therapist · Buddhist Psychology