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Riding Far, LLC Transformative Experiences for Horses and Riders All riders, regardless of experience or discipline, meet challenges along the way. Paul T. Haefner. in Physics.

Riding Far, LLC was founded over 20 years ago with a simple idea that riders could benefit from a better understanding of themselves, their horses, and how to create change. We help riders move through these challenges. This is more than your typical sport psychology or horse training. We have dedicated ourselves to create transformative experiences for equestrians and horses through compassionate and expert education, mentorship and guidance. We meet every rider and horse where they are and create deeply personal and meaningful experiences. Our work inspires change where traditional approaches have often failed. We ground ourselves in an innovative integration of modern human psychology and horsemanship, drawing inspiration from a wide range of human psychological disciplines and the best of classical and modern horsemanship including equine ethology and biomechanics. We are passionate about our own personal and professional growth in order to bring our clients current, comprehensive, informed, and inspired guidance. PhD

Dr. Haefner is a licensed clinical and sport psychologist in private practice in Northern Virginia with more than 30 years of professional experience. In addition to his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, Dr. Haefner is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming. He also holds a B.S. In his practice, he provides personal/professional development, sport psychology consultation, and a broad range of other therapeutic services to adults, adolescents and children. An avid equestrian since his childhood, Dr. Haefner has combined his love for horses and lifelong equestrian experience with his knowledge of human psychology in order to help people transform themselves and their relationships with their horses. He enjoys working with riders of all levels and disciplines tackling the many and varied challenges that arise along the way. He helps riders transform self-doubt into confidence, fear into courage, distractibility into focused concentration, and pressure and anxiety into effective performance. In addition to helping people with their riding goals, Dr. Haefner uses the unique relationship between people and their equine partners to help people attain their own personal growth goals such as increased self-confidence, assertiveness, trust, intimacy and balance in relationships. Dr. Haefner is passionate about learning. He is committed to integrating newly acquired knowledge and skills into his work with riders. His most recent learning venture into interpersonal neurobiology has led to Riding Far to partner with Neurofficient to offer their clients neurofeedback brain training. Dr. Haefner is also a steadfast advocate for research in the field of human-horse interaction. He assisted in founding the Research Committee for the Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association. He served on the Board of Directors of the Horses and Humans Research Foundation (HHRF), having been honored to serve as President of the Board for three of those years. He continues his advocacy for research through his role as Scientific Advisor for HHRF. Dr. Haefner is passionate about teaching. He has taught every age and level from kindergarten to graduate school. He has served on the staff/faculties of The Hill School, Catholic Memorial High School, The Fielding Institute, The Lab School of Washington, and The Catholic University of America. He dedicated to educating riding instructors and trainers, as well as riders, about the psychology of teaching and learning. His goal is to help instructors and trainers become more effective teachers and riders become more effective learners. Justin Haefner

Justin Haefner is a professional trainer who specializes in the training and handling of young performance jumpers. He is the full time Trainer of Young and Developing Horses at St. Bride’s Farm where he focuses on giving international caliber jumping horses the best foundation possible for their later life on the international show circuit. Justin believes it is essential to understand how horses’ bodies move and function in order to effectively train horses. In his continuous pursuit of deeper knowledge of equine physiology and biomechanics, Justin is a student at the Vluggen Institute of Equine Osteopathy and Education. Justin is also committed to transforming the experiences of horses and their riders through his work with Dr. Haefner in Riding Far, LLC. He contributes his knowledge of the horse’s psychology and physiology to create a well-rounded and unique perspective on the relationship between horse and rider. The synergistic, collaborative combination of Justin’s training and horsemanship experience with Dr. Haefner’s experience helping people change creates powerful opportunities for riders to transform their relationships with themselves and their horse in large and small ways. Justin comes from a background in vaquero style natural horsemanship, spending his childhood highly interested in creating and understanding deep connections with horses. Time spent starting young horses, foxhunting, and dabbling in many different disciplines gave him a base to understand key elements of a horse’s solid foundation. His focus on bodywork and anatomy/biomechanics goes hand in hand with his deep interest in classical dressage. His focus with every horse, no matter their discipline, is to gift them with strength of mind, body and emotion. Much of his work is based on the teaching and philosophy passed down by masters such as Nuno Oliveira. While patiently and steadfastly working to positively influence the equestrian world, Justin is deeply committed to continue his personal education. He hopes to return to Portugal where he spent time riding at the Centro Equestre Leziria Grande with the Valença’s, and continued lessons with Patrick King. His interests are in improving his own biomechanics and posture as a rider, as well as knowledge of horse and human physiology, training through classical philosophy, and further understanding and ability in equine bodywork.

Psych Saturday: Can I See Your ID?It has been a very rich and busy few months. I have been teaching with Justin, investi...
09/12/2026

Psych Saturday: Can I See Your ID?

It has been a very rich and busy few months. I have been teaching with Justin, investing in my own growth and skills with both horses and humans, supporting my clients, and working on building a future that allows Riding Far to reach and support more riders and horses. That, of course, is all on top of the usual day-to-day responsibilities of living: nurturing my own family relationships, taking care of my pets, maintaining my home, laundry, shopping, cooking… you know the drill.

This week I find myself tired. And with that weariness came feelings of frustration and discouragement. Yesterday I had a difficult ride on Lil' Joe. No one else may have noticed, but I did. I was tense and demanding in ways that I knew didn't work for Joe. Yet I couldn't seem to help myself (and Joe). So, after a number of small battles, I cut my ride short.

Did I mention I was tired?

On the ride home I was listening to a podcast and heard the word "burnout," and before I knew it my mind was racing to claim the title. God, how we love a label. Fortunately, I was able to quickly shake myself loose from the idea.

I don't object to the underpinning ideas behind something like burnout. Those who research and study a phenomenon like this make a valuable contribution. This knowledge helps us in numerous ways. It helps us understand ourselves and our reactions to the world we live in. It helps us understand and support others. And, most importantly, it can help us find effective ways to grow and change. What I object to is the tendency to claim it as an identity, as if the mere statement, "I am burnt out," could capture the depth and complexity of who you are and what you have experienced.

There is a shift in our current culture to glorify such labels. Given my work as a psychologist, I hear it most around diagnosis. I am anxious. I am depressed. I am bipolar. I am ADHD. I am on the spectrum. I am neurodivergent. I am… as if the diagnoses defined them.

I remember in grad school, during my clinical training, that it was impressed upon us that people weren't their diagnoses. We were carefully trained never to equate a person with a diagnosis. Instead, we described the diagnosis as a way of naming the experiences they were challenged with. The diagnosis informed the client and the work. It was never meant to be their identity.

More and more of my clients these days define themselves by their diagnoses. It seems to give them a sense of identity and entry into a club or group where they feel less alone and find support. Yet, at the same time, it limits them. Often in ways that work against their goals and what they want for themselves. I never thought in a million years that my work would evolve into "undiagnosing" people, helping them see themselves beyond their symptoms.

I suppose I should not have been surprised. After all, growth is all about stepping beyond our stories. It is about claiming the richness of who we are and resisting the temptation to find refuge in some convenient shorthand.

On my drive home yesterday, I felt some of the feelings we connect to burnout. I will take this seriously and act to care for myself. At the same time, that does not define me. It is not my identity. I am so much more than that. What's your ID?

~ Paul

09/11/2026

Some of our stories are easy to hear because we tell them to ourselves in words.
Others show up in how we react, what we notice, what we assume, and how we move through the world.
Those can be much harder to see from the inside.
Sometimes understanding ourselves means becoming curious about how we are experienced by others.

Artie intently watching the Working Equitation World Championships and taking notes... Congratulations to all three of t...
09/10/2026

Artie intently watching the Working Equitation World Championships and taking notes...

Congratulations to all three of the riders who represented the USA so well today in the Dressage ring and best of luck to Robin Bond and Zapata tomorrow!

Last week, Artie, Leonard, and I went to a Beaux Rêves Equestrian schooling dressage show. It was a first dressage show ...
09/10/2026

Last week, Artie, Leonard, and I went to a Beaux Rêves Equestrian schooling dressage show. It was a first dressage show for all three of us, and I couldn’t be more proud of the two boys!

Thank you to everyone at Beaux Reves for making it an enjoyable and quiet maiden voyage! I am looking forward to their next show in October.

We are always grateful for the support of our sponsors. Both horses are fed by Triple Crown Feed, each in a HCS, USA Saddlery & Fittings Saddle, and I am dressed from boots to helmet by Another Turn Tack & Apparel.

~Justin

09/09/2026

An interruption creates a moment where the pattern can change.
But what happens in that moment matters.
If we bring the same frustration, defensiveness or intensity into it, we may simply reinforce the thing we were trying to change.
The interruption needs to lead to someplace better.

09/08/2026

Patterns don’t only belong to the horse.
We bring our own learned patterns into the relationship too.
Sometimes a pattern needs to be interrupted. The question is what we bring to that interruption, and what we offer on the other side.
Because stopping a behaviour isn’t the same thing as creating the conditions for something different to emerge.

09/07/2026

We’re often looking for the one thing that will make the difference.
The better saddle. The right training method. The perfect professional. The thing that finally fixes the problem.
But horses don’t live in isolated pieces.
Training, feet, nutrition, veterinary care, turnout, handling, bodywork, saddle fit… each matters. And each affects the others.
Sometimes progress isn’t about finding something extraordinary.
It’s about getting the ordinary things working well together.

Don’t worry - they’ll be back in a week’s time, on Sept 14, just not here this week for the regular Facebook Live.   If ...
09/06/2026

Don’t worry - they’ll be back in a week’s time, on Sept 14, just not here this week for the regular Facebook Live.
If you go to the videos section in the photos tab on our page you can catch up on any recent ones you may have missed.

Psych Saturday: The One ThingThis past weekend Justin and I offered a collaborative clinic with Dr. Catherine Wycoff of ...
09/05/2026

Psych Saturday: The One Thing

This past weekend Justin and I offered a collaborative clinic with Dr. Catherine Wycoff of Kinetic Balance. Good riders, good horses, a real appetite to learn and improve. And more than one of them arrived looking for the same thing, though nobody said it in quite these words. They were looking for the key. The one change, the one understanding, the special something that would finally unlock their balance and their partnership with their horse. The secret, if we would just provide it for them.

I understand the hunger behind that search. I have felt it myself for most of my life and career. We want the lever. We want to believe that if we press here, the good stuff comes out there, reliably, every time. It would make the work so much cleaner. Find the one thing, learn the one thing, work the one thing, get the result.

The trouble is that every time I have gone looking for the one thing, it has dissolved in my hands. I would decide it was the seat, and then a rider with a rigid core and unsettled seat would get softness anyway. I would decide it was the hands, and then I would find a horse that strides steadily while his rider grabs with clenched fists and bouncing arms. I would decide it was the breath, and then I would find a horse who settled while her rider held her breath. Maybe because something in her carriage said she meant no harm. Whatever I crowned as the mechanism turned out to be one voice in a much larger chorus, and the chorus sang on without it. The thing I was after never rested on the single piece I had picked. It kept finding another way, because it was never resting on a single thing to begin with.

I think about that a lot. Not because any of those pieces fail to matter, they do, but because of how badly I wanted one of them to be the answer. That wanting is the thing to watch.

Balance and partnership are not produced by a mechanism. They emerge. They rise up out of the interaction of many systems running at once: the nervous system reading the room below awareness, the slower chemistry of stress and settling, the whole history each of us drags into the moment, the footing under our feet and the light in the sky and whether anyone slept. None of these is the cause. What we are chasing lives in the relationship between them, in the way they lean on and answer each other. And underneath all of it is something simpler than any of the parts: whether the rider and the horse feel safe enough to let go. Balance asks them to release, and they cannot release where they do not trust. The horse and rider are doing the same math, in their own bodies, at the same time.

There is a line I keep coming back to, a Sufi teaching that Donella Meadows uses in her book on systems: "You think that because you understand 'one' you must therefore understand 'two,' because one and one make two. But you must also understand 'and.'"

That is the whole thing, really. We keep studying this one and the other one. The nervous system. The seat. The theory of the week. And we keep skipping over the and, which is where the partnership actually happens.

I feel it most clearly on Revel. Revel is efficient to the bone, a horse who has done the math on effort and decided to spend as little of it as the situation truly requires. On a good morning he softens and powers up under me and the whole picture just tips into ease, and if you asked me what did it I could not honestly hand you the one thing. Was it my seat soft and following, or my breath energized, or the fact that the arena was empty, or full, or that we had a good ride yesterday and something is still carrying over, or that the wind picked up, or all of it folding together in a way I will never fully be able to name? I know it when it arrives. I cannot manufacture it by pulling a single lever, because there is no single lever. What I can do is make it safe enough that the energy and liveliness has room to show up.

This is the part athletes hate to hear too. Every performer wants the one tool, the one technique, the one thought that turns the painful pressure off. And there are useful tools, the way there are useful pieces in any settling. But nobody performs well because of one thing. They perform well when a whole set of conditions happens to line up, some of which they built on purpose over years and some of which just showed up that day. The pros are not the ones who found the mechanism. They are the ones who learned to tend the whole field so the odds of things lining up got better and better.

Which brings me back to the clinic. By the end of the weekend, something had shifted for those riders. You could see it, the horses rounder and softer, the riders quieter and more available. They had found what they came looking for. And here is the part I love: when I asked them what changed, most of them could not quite say. They reached for it and it slipped a little. It was the seat, but not only. It was the breath, but not only. It was Catherine's eye and Justin's feel and their own willingness and the horse meeting them halfway, all of it folding together into something none of them could point to and name. What they found was not a technique. It was the confidence to be fully themselves up there and still stay connected to the horse, and once that was in place the balance and the partnership came up on their own. They did not find the one thing. They found the and.

So when I stop chasing the mechanism, the work actually gets more honest. I stop looking for the button and start tending the conditions. I make the ground a little safer in a dozen small ways and I let the emergence do what emergence does. I get out of the fantasy that I control the outcome and into the humbler, truer job of shaping what the outcome grows out of.

There is real relief in that, once you stop grieving the lever you never had.

They came looking for the one thing. What they found was the ground the whole partnership grows out of, and no one can hand you the ground. ~ Paul

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