Spitfire Coach

“I don’t know.”

We say it like it’s a failure.

But what if it’s actually the beginning?

I was working with a client recently who kept repeating those three words.

Not because they lacked intelligence. Not because they weren’t capable. But because they felt pressure to have the right answer.

Here’s the truth:
“I don’t know” usually means one of a few things:
✨ You need more information.
✨ You’re afraid of being wrong.
✨ You’ve never given yourself permission to explore that question.
✨ You’re standing right at the edge of growth.

And that edge? It’s uncomfortable. We live in a world that rewards certainty. Quick answers. Strong opinions. Hot takes.

But real growth, real leadership happens in the pause.

When you slow down.

When you sit with uncertainty.

When you get curious instead of critical.

Instead of shutting down at “I don’t know,” try asking:
• What do I know?
• What am I assuming?
• What do I need to learn?
• What feels risky about answering this?

Not knowing isn’t weakness. It’s the doorway to clarity.
Stay curious. 🔥

Take a listen to the podcast here:

Episode 236: The Power of “I Don’t Know” We’ve been conditioned to believe that strong leaders always have the answers. But what if the most powerful words in the room are actually: “I don’t know.” In this episode, Lauren unpacks why “I don’t know” isn’t weakness — it’s the doorway to clarity, growth, innovation, and ps...

Oh 2016! What a year filled with hope, fear, excitement and adventure. I was fresh out of my divorce and cross-country move back to DC.

Months in I quit my job and threw myself fully into building my coaching business. I had no clients and saw my bank account trickle out every month.

There were days I couldn’t get out of bed - paralyzed by the fear. But thankfully my bulldog, Rico Suave, forced me to get up and out and connect with the world.

2016 was the hardest year to face, but it was sprinkled with clues on what I would do next. I’m thankful for the lessons and my own belief that this could become something amazing.

10 years later is sparking positive change with our clients, coaches and curious onlookers!