Mystic Intimacy

If you are realizing you haven’t prioritized your own or**sm (especially in a hetero relationship), I want to invite you to be so gentle with yourself. 🥹

That way, instead of self-shaming or blaming, you can:

🤨Become aware of what patriarchal beliefs you have internalized that make you believe your pleasure is not as important as your male partner’s.

🥰Softly begin replacing them with beliefs that help you feel more confident in expressing and receiving the pleasure and devotion you DESERVE.

🤗Incorporate somatic practices (because all of this lives in your body), that help you FEEL more embodied in your consent, pleasure and boundaries.

All of this and more is what we will be exploring together in the Self Intimacy Wh♥︎re delicious monthly container.

The doors are not open yet, but if you’re curious, you can drop a ❤️‍🔥 to be added to the waitlist. 😘

And if you have private questions my DM is open.

We are done with all of that 😘

Once you realize that thinking “you need too much” to or**sm as a woman is actually internalized patriarchal BS, you can begin to redefine your relationship to intimacy from feeling like an accessory to his pleasure to putting your experience at the CENTER.

And though the reframe itself can be immensely powerful, in order for it to land solidly in your body, it often needs support, permission, safety and corrective experiences to do so. ❤️

🌱 I’m curious, if you were to receive support around this, which of these do you imagine would feel most helpful in helping you reclaim your pleasure as a right and not a “maybe”?

🌹Female pleasure education so I understand my body more.
🫶Supportive Community to encourage my intimacy journey.
🔥Mentorship to build more confidence in asking for what I want.

Men being superior to women is patriarchy’s biggest Myth.

Intimate performance is the default state for a lot of women because we are brought up in a patriarchal culture that centers male pleasure, approval and consumption.

😵‍💫Mentally that can look like thinking that you require too much to cm and subconsciously accepting the fact that your own experience revolves around the axis of his c.ock.

🥺Emotionally that can feel like disconnection, sadness and perhaps resentment you're not receiving the kind of pleasure and attention that feels caring and devotional.

🤐Somatically that can feel like constriction in the throat or a tightening (bracing) of the whole body because you are actually not in full consent, and are instead just going through the motions.

Curious in which of these 3 dimensions you notice signs of performance the most?

If there’s one thing I learned from working with women in the intimacy field it’s this:

Shame grows in isolation and heals in community .

We are taught from a tender age that our pleasure and bodies are are not our own, but there to be vilified or commodified for male consumption, and when we internalize these messages (because how can we not?) it can looks like this:

👉not speaking your desires, boundaries or needs in bed

👉being afraid to you want “too much” or take “too long” to cum.

👉Being uncomfortable with your yoni being adored

👉having a hard time spending time with your own body or self pleasure.

And though the patriarchal conditioning has been relentlessly poisoning our female psyche for millennia with the messaging that our pleasure is shameful, the truth of our erotic energy being medicine runs much deeper.

And by bringing the conversations in safe communities with other women, we can begin to see that we are not alone in our experience.

And perhaps start cultivating the courage and permission to redefine our relationship to our sensuality from one steeped in shame and objectification, to one that is free, embodied and unapologetic.

🌹So tell me love, do you have any women in your life you can talk to about these things?