Parenting Guide

The unique age between birth to around 3-4 years old is a special time when so much is developing and forming inside your child: emotions, attachments, self-esteem, speech, focus and attention, sensory processing and even their intellect

Here’s what you should avoid doing during this period of your child’s development:

❌ 1. Don’t discipline for showing their emotions.
If your child is crying, whining, screaming – they are not manipulating, not being “bad”, they are just communicating their emotional state to you. At this age kids don’t have the skills to regulate their own emotions, they will learn to do it by watching us!

❌ 2. Don’t speed up their development
Early academic education, reading, advanced math, algebra at three – all of this has a negative impact on the developing mind. What’s important for this age group is movement, autonomy, connection and play.

❌ 3. Don’t compare your child to other kids
“Look at Max, he’s already . . .”
These comments destroy self-esteem. Each child develops at their own pace and you should only compare them to themselves and their progress

❌ 4. Stay away from too much control
Overcontrolling and many “no!” creates anxiety and insecurity in your child. It’s much more beneficial to set up wider boundaries and let your child have autonomy within those boundaries

❌ 5. Encourage curiosity and boundary pushing
If your child is very obedient and conforming at 3 or 5 years old, that could mean that they are too scared to lose connection with you. It’s important that your child throws tantrums, tries to see how far they can push boundaries, and lets you know what they want and don’t want. All this behavior tells you that your child is developing appropriately

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💡 Children’s brain is not fully developed and the part of the brain that is responsible for impulse control is very under constrution until early to late 20s I

Aaaaand it goes fully offline when they are dysregulated, meaning that they are not capable of controling themselves in those moments

So yelling or shaming them wouldn’t help in the moment, it would just add MORE dyregulation

After learning this and adjusting my approach to handling my kids fighting, here is what happened:

✨ Both kids felt seen and heard
✨ Behavior is addressed when their brain can actually learn
✨ They start to build emotional regulation skills to use when they are older
✨ Our connection stays intact

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Before you get mad at them . . . remember that inside their heads it probably sounds like this ☝️🤪🎶

💥💥💥 Pure chaos, energy, and zero thoughts 💥💥💥

Being a parent I have experience giving up things I love:

✨ sleep
✨ me time
✨ perfectionism

But give up coffee??? NOPE 🙂‍↔️ that’s not happening anytime soon

I love my daily coffee ritual, I love my good quality coffee at home

I can say I’m a huge coffee snob and I’m proud of it 😅

Drop a ☕️ in the comments if there’s no way you can give up coffee either 👇 I’m sure I’m not alone here

Teen travels done right 👇👇👇

💾 SAVE this for the next time you’re traveling with the whole family

❗️𝙇𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙀𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨
On trips away from home, the less you expect, the calmer you’ll be. Expecting your kid to eat healthy or stay off technology as they do at home? Prepare for power struggles and tantrums. While I’m not suggesting you should abandon all boundaries, allowing some flexibility while traveling can help everyone
❗️ 𝙄𝙣𝙫𝙤𝙡𝙫𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙏𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙋𝙡𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜
Let your teen feel in control by involving them in planning activities on your trip. Let them choose and plan some of the activities, especially the ones they are interested in. This gives them a glimps to do their own planning in the future
❗️𝙏𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙏𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙋𝙖𝙘𝙠 𝙎𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙩
Do you have a system when you pack your suitcase? Do you roll your clothes or use cubes? Let your teen pack their own bag. Show them some packing techniques, give a checklist, and let them do it. This not only leaves you with more time to pack yourself but also shows your teen that you believe in them
❗️𝙋𝙡𝙖𝙣 𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚
If your trip is packed with a lot of activities, have some free time too. Let your teen (and yourself) relax for half a day at the hotel or a café. Once recharged, everyone be excited to explore more
❗️ 𝙀𝙢𝙗𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙚 𝘾𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙡𝙞𝙘𝙩𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝘼𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨
Conflicts are inevitable when spending all your time together. Irritation often stems from being tired, hungry, or bored. Try to recognize which one is happening and let them them release their frustration to defuse the situation faster. Remember, you might be irritable for the same reasons they are, so meeting everyone’s needs as much as possible is key
❗️ 𝙇𝙚𝙩 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙏𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙙
This will teach independence and confidence. On our recent trip, I let my teen handle all walking direc