Leslie At The LooM Life

One of the hardest parts of divorce as a mom can be knowing your children’s lives are going to change too.

Maybe the divorce wasn’t what you wanted. Maybe you’re still trying to understand what life is going to look like yourself.

And somehow, you’re also supposed to help your kids understand it.

You may want to protect them from every change. To reassure them that everything will stay the same. But sometimes the most loving thing you can offer is honesty, shared in a way they can handle.

That doesn’t mean telling them everything.

It means creating emotional safety while acknowledging that some things will be different.

This is where your own mindfulness and emotional regulation matter. When you can regulate your nervous system, you have more space to respond to their questions without letting your own fear take over.

That inner work matters for you, and it shapes how your children experience this transition too.

We talk more about this in this week’s Pulling Threads conversation, available on the podcast and YouTube.

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Have you ever looked around during your divorce and thought, “How am I actually going to do this?”

That loneliness can hit in ways you never expected.

The women around you may love you deeply, but if they haven’t lived through divorce themselves, it can feel like no one quite understands the decisions, fear, grief, and uncertainty you’re carrying.

That’s why hearing another woman’s story can matter so much.

In this week’s episode of Pulling Threads, we talk about the power of women sharing what they’ve lived through, not because every divorce looks the same, but because sometimes hearing how someone else found her footing helps you believe you can find yours too.

There’s so much inner work wrapped up in starting over. Mindfulness, nervous system regulation, emotional regulation, identity work, and learning to trust yourself again can all become part of finding your own sense of alignment.

And sometimes personal growth begins with simply hearing, “This is how I made it through.”

The episode is available on the podcast and YouTube.

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Here's a cruel little irony a lot of women hit.

You spent years asking him to show up. Hinting, then saying it plain, then basically begging. And you got nothing back. So slowly, quietly, you stopped asking. You went somewhere he couldn't reach.

And *that's* the moment he wakes up. The second you're actually done, here comes the changed man. The effort. The promises. Everything you were dying for two years ago, showing up right on time to be too late.

And I know that messes with your head. Because now you feel guilty. Like maybe you should give it another shot. Like leaving makes you the bad guy when he's "trying so hard."

But you can want out of a marriage without needing him to be a villain first. He can be a genuinely good man who's just not yours anymore. Both of those things get to be true. You don't need a horror story to justify your own life.

And a scared "I'll change" doesn't erase years of feeling alone next to someone. Real repair needs two people who both want it, not one person suddenly panicking about what they're losing.

So if you've already gone quiet inside, that quiet is information. It's not a character flaw. It's not you being cold. It's what a person sounds like after they've been running on empty for a really long time.

If you're somewhere in this, comment COMMUNITY and I'll get you into Mindful Untangling. A group of women who know this exact spot. My messages are open too.

I still have feelings about a house I didn’t want to live in anymore.

I wanted the divorce. I didn’t want to keep living there. And still, that house held pieces of my life that mattered deeply to me.

My son was born while we lived there. There were family memories there. There was an entire version of me connected to that place.

Heather and I talked about this in our conversation because major life changes have a way of bringing up grief in places you didn’t expect. 🤍

You can feel certain about a decision and sad about what it costs.

You can want a new beginning and miss what came before.

Sometimes identity work and personal growth live right inside that contradiction.

I’ve encouraged women to create small rituals when something meaningful ends. Say goodbye to the house. Thank it for what it held. Let yourself cry in the empty room if that’s what comes up. 🌿

There’s mindfulness in allowing yourself to notice what the moment means instead of rushing toward the next version of your life.

And sometimes alignment feels quieter than we expect. It can be knowing you’re moving in the right direction while still feeling the weight of what you’re leaving behind.

🎧 We talk about grief, nervous system regulation, fear, finances, motherhood, and rebuilding in this episode of Pulling Threads.

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