Andrea Hipps Divorce Coach

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Most people know to label the feeling they’re having and sense where it is that they’re feeling it in their body - and possibly to even understand what triggered it all.

But then what? What do we do with a feeling that’s been labeled and experienced? You’ve got one of four options to respond.

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Creating calm environments for safe conversations is a great way to preserve a loving relationship.

But what happens when that’s no longer available to you? When safety as a couple has left the room?

Your first step is to learn how to create safety for yourself, regardless of how your partner chooses to behave.

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Everyone you encounter has their own weather system.

Your job is not to change their weather. Instead, observe their weather and walk away when it’s unsafe for connection.

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Tactical and practical empathy is a great way to shift a conversation.

The danger comes when you think that it entitles you to some empathy back.

Not getting empathy back is simply information that will help you in your relationship decisions going forward.

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We all want closure.

Healthy people realize that total closure is a myth and pursue resiliency instead.

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I’ve got a catchy phrase for you to work with when you find yourself riled up with your partner or soon to be former partner: get curious, not furious.

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Being obsessed with closure is a guaranteed way to have a difficult divorce.

Divorce gives us brief moments of closure, but usually on the back end of it a new part of the process opens up again.

How are you managing your obsession with closure?

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Today we are talking about a little twist on how to share our feelings in a more safe and connecting way. It’s called an impact statement - give it a try?

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Flexibility is a must for divorce.

But how do we develop it?

Start by finding different ways to hold onto your core values even as the circumstances around you change constantly.