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Honestly, there were some BIG things I had to shift for this to happen

Years ago,I was married… but it was really toxic

It reflected my childhood, self-concept & what I believed love was at the time

& my last relationship was full of avoidance

I spent FOUR YEARS trying to convince someone just to live with me

Let alone marry me 😭

So when I finally got to the point where I was like:
“I’m ready for marriage”

…I realised I had to start seeing myself as a wife FIRST

I had really sh*tty beliefs around not being chosen & committed to

So I changed my self-concept

I started identifying as:
“I am chosen”
“I am a wife”
“I am happily married”

& this is the part people miss:

You don’t get what you want
You get who you are BEING

So if your dominant state is:
“They don’t want me”

…that is what reflects

EXACTLY what my old relationships reflected back

But this time around, I decided:
“Nope.I’m happily married to my dream man”

& I accepted it as true before the 3D caught up

Now the interesting part…

I didn’t even know my husband yet

& in the 3D, I wasn’t even dating anyone

But I had already decided:
“I am happily married”
“It’s done”

& he showed up EXACTLY as I had scripted 😭

Because your SP reflects the role you’ve given them

A lot of us are allowing the 3D to tell us who someone is instead of deciding it

So we get:
“It fizzled out”
“They’re inconsistent”

But this time?
I decided:
“This is my husband”

So from the VERY beginning, he reflected that

Within 3 months he’d bought the ring
Within 7 months we were engaged

& now we’re married & having a baby 😭

Whereas before, I was wavering in:
“Do they want me?”

& THAT was the script I was giving

A lot of you are saying:
“I’m married to my SP”

…but five minutes later you’re spiralling because they haven’t text back yet 😭

That’s not the state of:
“I’m happily married”

Because if you were truly living in that state?

Of course they love you
Of course you’ll hear from them

You have to stop getting caught in the middle & keep returning to:
“It’s done”

Still waiting for your SP?

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You’re seeing the opposite of what you’re affirming and you’re like...

“What the f*ck?”

Let me tell you that that’s actually a good thing.

Okay, so you’ve started affirming something and then bloody hell, your 3D starts getting so bloody loud.

You’re affirming:

“They want me.”

“They choose me.”

“They’re committed to me.”

And then this person is telling you they don’t want you, they want someone else, or something else happens.

And you’re like:

“This isn’t working. What is going on?”

I know that can feel so freaking daunting.

I was exactly the same when I started my journey too.

BUT...let me stop you right there...

This is actually a good thing.

Because if you’ve been consistent with the story you’re telling and you’re changing your self-concept at the same time, then when you see the opposite, it can actually mean it’s working.

Why?

Because the old story is purging out.

It has to go somewhere.

And the only thing that will stop the new story from coming in is if you give up.

If you stop persisting.

So when you see the old story, I know it’s hard.

I know it’s triggering.

But you have to remind yourself:

“Okay, the opposite is happening right now, but that’s okay. Things are changing.”

Then you keep affirming.

You keep staying consistent with the story you’re telling.

You keep deciding who you are and what you’re manifesting.

The old story will purge out and create space for the new story to come in.

So when you see the old story, just give it the meaning:

“Oh great, it’s the bridge of incidents. It’s working.”

And don’t get stuck there.

Don’t try to fix it.

Don’t make it mean something.

Just observe it and remind yourself:

“That’s not for me anymore because I am this.”

“This is who I am.”

“This is what I’m experiencing.”

And then persist.

Because if you do, you’ll start to see it shift.

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If you want movement with your SP fast..this is one of the fastest ways I see things shift in my 3D

& no, I don’t mean sitting there affirming for 14 hours while refreshing your phone every 3 seconds checking if they viewed your story 😭

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I have manifested many SP’s & I’m now married to one 🥰

Along my journey, I kept experiencing the same pattern in dating

At first they would pursue me
Ask to see me
Ask me to dinner

But then after a while, they’d still text me…but they wouldn’t actually make plans

& I realised I had a belief that people stop putting effort in after a certain amount of time

So one particular time, the weekend was coming up, we’d been texting, but they hadn’t asked to see me

Old me would have been:
“Why haven’t they asked?”
“Are they losing interest?”

Staring at my phone like a detective 😭

But instead, I knew how this worked now so every single time I thought about it, I started saying:

“I’m so glad they asked me to dinner”
“I’m always pursued”

That became my inner convo

& yes, part of me still felt triggered at times

But what matters is:
What are you returning to internally?

Because every single time my mind went back to:
“But they haven’t actually asked yet…”

I would go:
“No. I’m so glad we’re going for dinner”

& of course they text me the next day asking me to dinner

Because everything is reflecting YOU

Most people are living in:
“Why haven’t they text?”
“Why is nothing happening?”

& then they’re confused why the mirror keeps reflecting EXACTLY that back

But when you decide:
“Oh yeah, I’m so glad they text me”
“I wonder where we’ll go & what to wear”

…you’re living in the end

That’s why things manifest so freaking quickly when you do this consistently

Not:
“I’m so glad they asked me to dinner…”

Followed by:
“OH MY GOD WHY HAVEN’T THEY ASKED ME TO DINNER” 😭

You have to keep returning to:
“It’s done”

Even if the 3D hasn’t caught up yet

Still waiting for your SP to bang down your door declaring their love like it’s a Netflix romcom? 😭

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