Chris & Tara

Nobody told you this before the wedding💍
Nobody told you that marriage would make you confront
every version of yourself you’ve been hiding.

Selfishness. Impatience. Control. Insecurity.
Marriage puts it all on the table.

You thought you were marrying a person.
God sent you a sanctifier.

The friction in your marriage is not a sign
that something is wrong.
It’s a sign that God is doing something right.

Save this for the next time your marriage feels hard.
And tag someone who needs this reminder today!

Nobody told you this before the wedding 💍

Nobody told you that marriage would make you confront
every version of yourself you’ve been hiding.

Selfishness. Impatience. Control. Insecurity.
Marriage puts it all on the table.

You thought you were marrying a person.
God sent you a sanctifier.

The friction in your marriage is not a sign
that something is wrong.
It’s a sign that God is doing something right.

Save this for the next time your marriage feels hard.
And tag someone who needs this reminder today.

🛡️

Husbands. She doesn’t need more romance right now.

She needs to feel safe.

Safe to be imperfect.
Safe to be honest.
Safe to fall apart without losing you.

Most women aren’t withholding from their husbands out of spite.
They’re protecting themselves from emotional risk.

When a husband becomes a safe place —
consistent, present, humble —
his wife opens like she never has before.

Men: ask your wife today,
‘Do you feel safe with me?’
And actually listen to the answer.
Drop a shield if you’re committed to being that man.

The enemy of your marriage is not your spouse. So stop fighting the wrong person. The enemy wants you exhausted, resentful, and convinced that divorce is relief. He doesn’t need to destroy your marriage. He just needs you to stop fighting for it. Your spouse is not your opponent. They’re your teammate, and your real enemy is terrified of a unified marriage. Tag your spouse to let them know that you’re on the same team and drop a shield emoji below to say that you’re fighting together.

The enemy of your marriage is not your spouse. So stop fighting the wrong person. The enemy wants you exhausted, resentful, and convinced that divorce is relief. He doesn’t need to destroy your marriage. He just needs you to stop fighting for it. Your spouse is not your opponent. They’re your teammate, and your real enemy is terrified of a unified marriage. Tag your spouse to let them know that you’re on the same team and drop a shield emoji below to say that you’re fighting together.

Some one had to say it….
Marriage is not 50/50.
Some days it’s 80/20.
Some days it’s 100/0.
And some days it’s your spouse doing 100
while you’re just... existing.
We got this idea that marriage is a perfectly
balanced transaction.
It’s not.
Some seasons YOU will carry.
Some seasons THEY will carry.
That’s not dysfunction.
That’s covenant.
You don’t keep score.
You keep showing up.
Tag your spouse if they carried you this week.
Let them know you noticed.