Lesbian Couples Academy

When your partner gets triggered, you shouldn’t have to guess what they need.

This is where we see couples get stuck the most.

With the only option to take a break, cool off and come back later.

The strongest couples become experts on each other.

They know the shifts in tone, the signs that something’s off, and what helps their partner feel safe again.

That kind of knowing changes conflict, because instead of reacting to each other, you know how to care for each other in the moments it matters most.

Send this to your partner and ask: “Do we know what each other needs when we’re triggered?”

🏳️‍🌈We’re looking for 10 committed Le***an Couples who want to become experts on each other!

🔗Click the link in our bio and a free couples consultation

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❤️‍🩹Real repair is knowing what to do after the apology.

Saying “I’m sorry” is just the beginning of repair, and most couples will get stuck with the same hurt coming up years later, even after apologizing.

Especially when they skip this☝️step!

🏳️‍🌈If you’re in a committed le***an relationship and want to learn how to become each others safest relationship

🙅‍♀️Without leaving the session more disconnected

🙅‍♀️Without working with someone who doesn’t understand the dynamics of being q***r

🙅‍♀️Without a small bit of relief only to return back to the same dynamic

🔗Click the link in our bio and schedule a free couples consult

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❤️ Why couples trigger eachother even when they’re in love.

Learn the skills to eliminate the guessing game of what to do or say in the moment you two are triggered BEFORE it spirals

🔗Click the link in our bio and apply to work with us

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🙋‍♀️Can you share hurt without Defensivness?

One of the hardest things to do in a relationship is tell your partner “that hurt me” without it immediately turning into defensiveness, explaining, or another argument.

So here’s something we practice in our own relationship:

Lead with the hurt, not the accusation.

Instead of:
“You always dismiss me.”

Try:
“When that happened, I felt dismissed, and I want to tell you what came up for me without making you the bad guy.”

The goal isn’t to prove who was right.

It’s to help your partner understand your experience while protecting the connection between you.

Because secure couples aren’t couples who never hurt each other.

They’re couples who know how to bring the hurt toward each other instead of using it against each other.

If you want more tools like this for creating a more secure relationship…

follow us and send this to your partner so you can practice it together.

We’re looking for committed le***an couples who are tired of the heteronormative advice that doesn’t work and that want to step into something that will never break.

If that’s you click the link in our bio

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🏳️‍🌈We’re looking for 10 committed le***an couples who are done with the ‘things are great or things are awful’ rollercoaster.

Who want a guarantee of connection, not just hope, and who are ready to protect and prioritize their relationship no matter how different they are or what life throws at them.

Who want to eliminate the guessing game of what to do or what to say when you’re both triggered, so you have a clear, predictable plan for finding your way back to each other.

And if traditional, heteronormative relationship advice hasn’t worked for you, this is for you.

If that’s you,

🔗click the link in our bio and apply to work with us.

My wife moved from Oklahoma to Oregon years ago to build a life with me,

which meant leaving behind a lot of things she loved including Sunday dinners with her family.

So we started making her family recipes here at home.

It’s something really simple we do that helps her stay connected to her family and where she came from

It also gives me a chance to know that part of her a little better too.

No amount of time together will ever be enough

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Love gets you in the room.

But it won’t keep you there.

Secure couples have a shared vision for why they’re together, what they’re building, and why they continue choosing each other over everyone else.

Without a clear vision your relationship will be unpredictable

If you’re in a committed le***an relationship and ready to stop just loving each other

…and start intentionally building your relationship together on purpose

Click the link in our bio and join Le***an Couples Academy.

follow us.

That’s exactly what we’re here to help you do.

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Couples challenge had us completely in tears. 😂

Anyone else try a couples challenge and realize you’re way more confident than coordinated? 😂

We completely failed… but couldn’t stop laughing.

And honestly, these are the moments we love most!

Psychotherapist Esther Perel says,
“Play is part of the spark.”

🙋‍♀️Tell us in the comments how you two stay curious and playful!

🏳️‍🌈The more one of you reaches, the more the other pulls away.

The more they pull away, the harder you reach.

Until you’re both exhausted, disconnected, and wondering why loving each other isn’t enough to stop the cycle.

This is the pursuer–distancer cycle. And it doesn’t fix itself.

If you’re ready to stop the push-pull and become each other’s safest place, apply to work with us through the link in our bio.

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🧙🏼‍♀️Rituals from our favorite witch

🕯️We set intentions, burn them, and let them go, together.

Trusting the universe has it,
as if it’s already done.

It’s incredible to be aligned with a partner like that.

🫂 Secure couples build rituals around their connection.

Share in the comments What’s yours?

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