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06/18/2026
Sip smarter this summer ☀️🍹
You don’t have to choose between having fun and feeling good. Change your relationship with alcohol, learn to drink on purpose, and discover that your favorite drink might just be the one that leaves you feeling amazing tomorrow. ✨
These are a few of my go-to booze-free summer sips that make moderation SO much easier. Cheers to waking up without the regret. 💛
06/10/2026
You love your kids. You also love to drink 🥃 .
And nobody’s talking honestly about what that actually looks like. Until now.
Join shame-free drinking coach Erica Mallery (that’s me!) for an evening of real talk, real laughs, and yes — real drinks — about the sneaky ways parenthood and alcohol intertwine.
We’re covering:
✅ Why “mommy wine culture” is everywhere (and why that matters)
✅ What your drinking habits are actually telling you
✅ Simple shifts that make you feel more in control — without giving anything up
No judgment. No lectures. No AA vibes. Just honest conversation with parents who get it.
🚨comment “SIP” to RSVP or checkout the link in bio!
Happy Hour Thursday, June 18
Let’s have some fun - parenting is hard enough!
Have you ever noticed it’s not actually about the drink?
After a fun night out, your brain just wants more of the feeling—more connection, more energy, more “don’t let this end.” But here’s the truth: more drinks don’t extend the fun… they usually lead to regret, guilt, and a rough next day.
In this video, I break down why this happens and share a simple, powerful shift that helps you drink less without relying on willpower.
✨ The key? Pre-planning your ending.
Instead of leaving it up to “in the moment” decisions (when your brain is tired and impulsive), you set yourself up ahead of time with something intentional—like a calming nighttime ritual waiting for you when you get home.
This is how you:
✔️ Break the “one more drink” cycle
✔️ Feel more in control without restriction
✔️ Actually follow through on what you want
If you’re trying to drink less but still enjoy your life, this is for you.
Comment “prep” and I’ll send you my Prep for Success Guide so you can actually start drinking less—without relying on willpower or white-knuckling your way through it.
Because let’s be real… if willpower worked, you wouldn’t be here 😉
Stop trying to control yourself in the moment… start setting your future self up to win.
Have you ever noticed it’s not actually about the drink?
After a fun night out, your brain just wants more of the feeling—more connection, more energy, more “don’t let this end.” But here’s the truth: more drinks don’t extend the fun… they usually lead to regret, guilt, and a rough next day.
In this video, I break down why this happens and share a simple, powerful shift that helps you drink less without relying on willpower.
✨ The key? Pre-planning your ending.
Instead of leaving it up to “in the moment” decisions (when your brain is tired and impulsive), you set yourself up ahead of time with something intentional—like a calming nighttime ritual waiting for you when you get home.
This is how you:
✔️ Break the “one more drink” cycle
✔️ Feel more in control without restriction
✔️ Actually follow through on what you want
If you’re trying to drink less but still enjoy your life, this is for you.
04/27/2026
Alcohol often isn’t just about the alcohol.
For so many women, it has become the support system where support is lacking everywhere else. And that is exactly what this podcast episode is about.
In Part 1, and I talk about:
• what somatic work actually means and why it’s become such a buzzword
• the difference between top-down healing and body-based healing
• why so many women use alcohol to “shut off”
how alcohol can become a stand-in for support, soothing, and regulation
• the role of motherhood, caregiving, and overwhelm in drinking habits
• why co-regulation matters so much more than we’ve been taught
• how Western culture disconnects us from our bodies
• why community can be one of the most healing parts of the journey
🫂comment SPOTIFY or APPLE for the direct link on your preferred platform 💗
About Elani:
Elani Engelken is a depth psychotherapist and somatic healer whose work sits at the intersection of nervous system science, depth psychology, and embodied healing. She works with individuals, couples, families, and groups to explore the patterns that live beneath the surface, in the body, in the lineage, and in relationship. She is particularly drawn to the places where psychology and the sacred meet. (And she’s really freaking awesome and amazing at what she does!)
Guess what? You’re not “too emotional” - you likely were never taught how to FEEL your emotions.
And so what do we do?
We distract.
We push it down.
We pour a glass of wine and tell ourselves we’ll deal with it later.
But here’s the truth no one talks about:
👉 What you don’t process… your body will.
That stress? That grief? That low-grade “off” feeling you can’t quite explain?
It doesn’t disappear. It just waits.
And sometimes it shows up as: Burnout. Anxiety. Getting sick. Or that moment where everything hits you all at once.
I've lived this. Multiple times.
And I can say with absolute certainty— numbing it with alcohol doesn’t make it go away…
…it makes it last longer.
Feeling your emotions isn’t the problem.
Avoiding them is.
So before you reach for a drink tonight, ask yourself:
✨ What am I actually feeling right now?
✨ How am I letting these feelings come through to be processed?
✨ And what would it look like to let that be okay?
Start there.
That’s where everything changes.
Comment SPOTIFY or APPLE for a direct link to the full episode!
Ever feel like you’re just going through the motions? It's okay to not be okay. Let's unpack this together.
Life can hit us hard, and sometimes we feel overwhelmed by grief and loss. It’s essential to recognize that everyone processes emotions differently. My journey has taught me that confronting feelings, rather than escaping them, is key to healing.
I’ve learned the hard way that avoiding emotions only prolongs the pain. Recently, I faced a deep loss, and it reminded me of the importance of truly feeling what we go through. When we allow ourselves to sit with discomfort, we open the door to healing.
If you're struggling, consider what you're feeling and how you’re ACTUALLY processing it. Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone.
Feeling emotions doesn’t make you weak; it makes you human. Allow yourself the grace to feel and heal.
💖 Full episode in bio for deeper insights. Comment SPOTIFY or APPLE for a direct link!
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Happy Monday everyone! Make it a mindful one.
Slow down.
Breathe.
Practice being mindful.
And of course…
Drink on purpose.
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