09/02/2026
At Memminger Elementary School in Charleston, South Carolina, Raymond Nelson noticed that many of the boys he worked with lacked a strong male role model to teach them simple lessons about confidence, respect, and how to carry themselves. He decided to create a space where those lessons could become part of their school experience.
His idea became the Gentlemen’s Club. Each Wednesday, nearly 60 boys from first through fifth grade arrive dressed in suits, ties, and their Sunday best. Some wear clothing donated by members of the community and kept by Nelson for students who need it. The boys learn practical lessons such as making eye contact, giving a proper handshake, opening doors, and presenting themselves with confidence.
Nelson also places a strong focus on respect. He teaches the boys to value their mothers, sisters, teachers, and other women in their lives. His goal is not simply to teach manners, but to help young boys understand how their actions affect others and how respect should guide the way they treat people.
The program made a lasting impression on the students. One boy said it taught him to respect others and treat them the way he wanted to be treated. Another shared a message about loving and accepting himself without allowing others to define his worth.
The success of the club led the Charleston County School District to consider similar programs at other schools. Nelson’s original group later became known as Boys With A Purpose, but the mission remains the same: give young boys encouragement, confidence, and positive guidance while helping them grow into respectful young men. ❤️👔