Paloma Pilar

Being a beginner is a gift— even though most people treat it like something to escape.
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People are always chasing what’s next.

The next level.
The next version.
The next proof that they’re “further along.”

But being a beginner? That’s where everything actually starts. 🏁

This season has given me more than just a skill.

It’s given me structure when I needed it most.
It’s given me people who show up for me— and let me show up for them.
It’s given me something to hold onto when life felt/ feels heavy.

And it’s reminding me that growth doesn’t come from rushing, it comes from staying.

So yes, I know everyone looks forward to what’s next.

And I am too. 🤗

But when that moment comes, it won’t be because I rushed.

It will be because I stayed and honored this season.
Because I became who I needed to be here first.
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This version of me?
She fought to be here.

And what a blessing it is to see who she’s still becoming.
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Stay for the ride and we’ll do it together. Love you.
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{Strength Artist, Jiu Jitsu, BJJ, white belt, journey, community}

Do you ever feel like you have so much to say… you don’t even know where to start?

That’s me right now.

I’m just grateful to be here. Present.
Not living too far in the future.
Not stuck in the past either.

Two and a half years ago I lost someone I loved with my whole heart. It shattered parts of me I didn’t even know could break, and for a long time the darkness felt endless.

But something has been shifting.

For the first time in years, I’ve been able to go through old videos in my camera roll that I couldn’t even look at before.

Yesterday I recorded tutorials without breaking down crying.

Even the small things feel big right now — like finally buying a new pair of black shorts after wearing the same worn-out ones for years. (Don’t @ me… I wear my clothes until I absolutely can’t anymore. 😅)

This past weekend I competed with my team and felt so grateful to be there. I honestly didn’t feel good at all right before stepping on the mats, but it reminded me that preparation, resilience, and faith carry you even when you don’t feel perfect.
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One thing my faith has taught me is that when you attach your suffering to Christ, it doesn’t have to be meaningless.

I look to His example — the loss, betrayal, and heartache He endured — and I’m reminded that darkness never gets the final word.

Things in this world will break your heart but with God, they cannot break the spirit.
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And I refuse to stay down or hide.✨
You’ll see me.

So wherever you are in your fight… in your mind, your heart, or on the mats of your life, please keep going.

There’s a light within you that no darkness can take.

I see it.
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I’m with you.
I believe in you.
And I love you so very much.
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🙋🏽‍♀️ 𝗥𝗮𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

Giving isn’t a bad thing — in fact, if more people gave, more people would 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦. Including the giver. 😉
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But here’s what I’ve learned: there’s no honor in burning yourself out under the disguise of being “selfless.”

Because how can you ask someone to do what 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧?

That’s a rule of leadership.
That’s a rule of coaching.
And honestly… it’s a rule for life.
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Every time I think about skipping the promise I made to myself — to get outside, to move, to spend time under the sun 🌞 — I remind myself that this is 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦.

And when I show up for me, I show up better for everyone else.

That’s what the #𝙂𝘾𝙆𝙚𝙚𝙥𝙈𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙚 is all about — building momentum in a season where it’s so easy to just coast until January.

It’s not about being perfect. It’s about becoming 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳. 💪🏽
Daily steps (or a timed promise).
2–4 days of strength training.
Simple, doable progress.

I even made the simplest workout — the GC5 — and a 𝘔𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘞𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘔𝘦 video inside our private Facebook group (pinned to the top 📌).
You’ll see how easy it is to start, and how to make it harder as you grow stronger.

This isn’t a trap or a net.
It’s a door.
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One you can feel safe walking through — into a room designed to help you get better.

The challenge is 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲.
The community is 𝗽𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗲.
And the opportunity to join is waiting in my bio.
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Let’s keep moving forward together.
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Love you, rooting for you.
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{Strength Artist, The Greatness Circle, Force for Good, Keep Showing Up, Momentum}

“Big mistake. Big. Huge.”
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You can’t tell me Pretty Woman wasn’t a deep, thought-provoking film.
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We’ve all fallen short, right? And we’ve all been underestimated — but no one is too far from grace, growth, or a new beginning.
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And people might doubt you every step of the way… until you rise and show them: “Big mistake. Big. Huge.”
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{Strength Artist, Pretty Woman, Julia Roberts, redemption}

People think I’ve fallen in love BJJ… but really, I’ve fallen in love with 𝐀.𝐌.BJJ — with the people.
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This community is a family — such a place of love, growth, and betterment on and off the mats.
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I mean it when I say that when God gives you a gift, be of service.
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Listening to your stories, hearing your goals, and helping you see new ways to perform — in life and in health — has been such an honor.
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And this is STILL just the beginning.
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It’s the last day of the month, but if you’ve been wanting someone to really listen and help you move from where you are to where you want to be — send me a DM. 💌
I’ll gladly make time for you.
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{Strength Artist, AMBJJ, Jiu Jitsu, family, strength, nutrition, lifestyle, recovery}

Listen… God told me you’re sexy😍 … His words, not mine.
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So since His word is truth — go on and believe Him, girl.
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Now, for the love of God, drink your water and go for a walk tomorrow, okay?
💁🏽‍♀️☀️

… don’t make me raise my voice. 😏

𝐏𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐥 𝐛𝐨𝐧𝐝.

I wish it wasn’t true. I wish it was love. But not everyone has known love 🥺— from others, or even from themselves.

But what everyone does know is pain. Some kind of suffering is guaranteed to us all.
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And because that is the one thing that links us, I choose to seek understanding—of the people hurting on every side.

I choose to meet the hate I see with love…

because love is the only thing that leaves light behind.

I’m praying you can too.
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