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There are parts of my story that I’ve written about for years…but I’m finally finding the courage to speak about them out loud!🫶🏾🎤🎙️

At the last healing circle I was invited to in HTX, we were asked to bring something that brings us joy. I brought a picture I’ve kept since I was 19, my father holding me as a baby.

I lost my father to senseless violence when I was only two years old.

But what I know is that he was my first experience of protection. My first experience of safety. I was held by him.

And for much of my life, I didn’t realize how deeply I was searching for that feeling again.

As a masc-presenting q***r woman, people sometimes want to make assumptions about my story. Who hurt you? What man did this to you? It may be for many, but that isn’t my story.

My story is about a little girl who lost her father far too soon and grew up learning how to navigate that absence.

My self-love journey has been about returning to that little two-year-old version of me and reclaiming the love I know my father had for me.

The love. The protection. The safety.

I’m learning how to give that to myself now.

My books have been a huge part of that healing. But at 43, I’m realizing healing has given me something else:

The courage to speak. To tell my story beyond the pages. To name the wounds I once carried silently. To understand where they came from without allowing them to define where I’m going.

Healing helps us understand the wounds we carry within and gives us the courage to love those places back to life.

I’m not just healing for the woman I am today.

I’m healing for that little girl who was once held so tightly by her father.

And in many ways, I’m still being held by that love.

I’m just learning how to hold myself now. More of my story is coming.

To learn more through my books, visit the 🔗 in my bio and pre-order my newest book, releasing this November.

I’m Coach Dee, the self love goat and I’m ready for the world to feel more of me…🖤👑

Self Love Sundays hit different for me..🌹👑

When you decided to bet on yourself and won.

Self-love isn’t just something I talk about. It’s something I practice, teach and create spaces for others to experience.

This is me getting ready to sit down for a conversation about self love with a local nonprofit organization I’m currently partnered with! Finn's Place 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

And join us next a Sunday for another powerful healing circle for our q***r collective! It’s a free safe space for the community!

This is what happens when you keep doing the work and showing up authentically!

Eventually, the right rooms start calling you & recommending you. Alignment!

Stay tuned for the full interview..👀🎙️

If your organization, podcast, conference or community is looking for a speaker, facilitator or thought partner to have real conversations around self-worth, emotional wellness, resilience, identity, leadership, healing or becoming…

Let’s talk. I’d love to bring my energy into the room. Link in bio!🔗

-Coach Dee, Self Love 🐐

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Growth is growth and maturity shows you healing on another level. Misalignment doesn’t mean beef, it just means you’ve outgrown a version of yourself and everything attached to it and that’s okay.

Everyone won’t be able to elevate to your next level. Be okay with that. Everyone has a choice to grow in their own way and their own pace and often it leads to different paths!

Let’s find peace in being okay with that. Keep growing, keep healing and continue to do what’s best for you!

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-Coach Dee, Self Love 🐐🌹

As a masc-presenting q***r individual, I know firsthand that asking for help isn’t always easy. In fact, sometimes it feels almost impossible because of how society has conditioned us to always be strong!😩

This weekend in Cali for Oakland Pride, I had the honor of joining a powerful panel discussion at the K. Stewart Foundation conference alongside the founder, 𝒦•𝒮𝓉ℯ𝓌𝒶𝓇𝓉 and Erica Mason where we shared real insight on breaking barriers through our healing and self-love journeys while being masc-presenting, black, and q***r women.

The gems were dropped. The energy was felt. And I let them know exactly why I’m stepping into my Soft Gent Era!💐🌷🫶🏾☺️

The room felt the warmth, safety, and love as we created space for conversations we don’t always get to have as a collective.

Stay tuned for more. It’s self love Sunday and I love these types of healing conversations. It’s the real soul food we need to regulate and feel safe within our own lives. Soften that armor mascs, you deserve to receive too!

-Coach Dee, Self Love Goat 🐐 🌹🌈