Julissa Edwards Counseling

In a previous post I spoke about how anger can be a secondary emotion to anxiety, which is true. ⁣
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What is also true is that anger can be a secondary emotion to depression as well. ⁣
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How is this so? 🤔 ⁣
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The symptoms of anxiety and depression have irritability in common. When anxious or depressed it is likely that one may experience irritability. ⁣
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In depression, oftentimes anger 😠 is the after effect of what truly is sadness or feelings of hopelessness. 😞 ⁣
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In my time of helping others, when someone is expressing a lot of rage/anger, there are usually unmet needs. 😔⁣
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I normally look to inquire more about that person, their history, what do their relationships look like, what kind of support are they receiving outside of therapy. ⁣
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All of these things make a grand difference. ⁣
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So if you or anyone close to you seems to be angry/irritable most days than not, treat them or yourself with compassion. 💛⁣
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Ask perhaps what is the underlying root of this anger? ⁣
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We all just need to be loved and given grace from time to time. 💕⁣
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Healing from Within is an 8 week trauma workshop where we teach you how to look at your wounds, instead of avoiding them. We teach you how to heal from your past traumas. 🙌🏽⁣
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𝗪𝐡𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚 𝐚 𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐣𝐞𝐜𝐭? 🤷🏽‍♀️⁣
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Most traumas induce a lot of shame and fear when thinking about even speaking about it. ⁣
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It is the reason why most individuals shy away from it and/or don’t speak upon it. ⁣
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A plethora of research shows that simply speaking upon what happened is an effective and simple way of healing. ⁣
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Our mind, body, and soul need to release that traumatic event that occurred. One way to do that is to look at it, understand it, and find ways to overcome it. ⁣
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The longer we keep it a secret, the longer it will create negative symptoms and the longer it will have control over us. ⁣
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The longer we keep it a secret, the longer our past will continue to rule our future. ⁣
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I hope you know that whatever has occurred in your life, you were not deserving of it. We are all deserving of 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦. We are all deserving of forgiveness. We are all deserving of brighter tomorrows. ⁣
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What you know now, you did not know then. Please give yourself grace and compassion. ⁣
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Healing from Within is an 8 week trauma workshop where we teach you how to look at your wounds, instead of avoiding them. We teach you how to heal from your past traumas. 🙌🏽⁣
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DM Eddie or myself for more information. 👇🏽👇🏽⁣
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📲 Link is in my bio to apply. .Edwards_Counseling⁣
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𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐓𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐦𝐚 😖⁣
There are three types of trauma. ⁣
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1️⃣ 𝘈𝘤𝘶𝘵𝘦 trauma is normally a one-time event. An example of this could be 9/11 or the loss of a loved one. ⁣
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2️⃣ 𝘊𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘤 trauma is a particular traumatic event that continues to repeat itself. An example of this is childhood trauma or domestic violence. ⁣
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3️⃣ 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘹 trauma is a combination of both. There are several acute (one time) traumas along with chronic trauma in one person’s life.⁣
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When experiencing chronic or complex trauma we tend to go into a state of survival. ⁣
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🤔 Think about it, how could we not go into a state of survival? If negative events continue to happen in our lives our mind, body, and soul are going to try to do anything to stay alive.💛⁣
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Due to this, we will sometimes fall into negative coping skills because we are merely trying to make it through to the next day. ⁣
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👩🏽‍🏫 FYI: 70% of adults in the US have experienced some kind of trauma (and those are the ones who have reported it!). That’s 223.4 million people! ⁣
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It is very likely you and your loved ones having experienced some form of trauma. ❗️⁣
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You can also experience trauma away from the actual event such as seeing black individuals repeatedly hurt and killed on social media/tv. Another example was seeing the twin towers fall from our TVs in 2011. ⁣
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To get better in touch with your emotions and experienced traumas, try these journaling prompts: ⁣
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📝 What stood out to me most during this video? ⁣
📝 What are some potential traumas in my life? ⁣
📝 Where do they fall into? (acute, chronic, or complex)⁣
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If you are having a hard time seeing or admitting your traumas, simply put it on someone else. Imagine someone else in your life going through what you experienced. ⁣
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Would you hold space and compassion for them? If so, can we do the same for ourselves? 💛⁣
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𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝗪𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧 is an 8 week trauma workshop where we teach you how to look at your wounds, instead of avoiding them. We teach you how to heal from your past traumas. 🙌🏽⁣
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DM Eddie or myself for more information. 👇🏽👇🏽⁣
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⁣In my experience working with clients, anger 😤 is oftentimes a secondary emotion to fear/anxiety/feeling lack of control. ⁣
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Anxiety in general is the feeling of nervousness due to lack of control. Sometimes this may emotionally trigger a person to use force or anger to try and gain control of the situation. ⁣
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I also see a lot of individuals feeling like they have to defend themselves when others slander their reputation. ⁣
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This is a case by case topic, although my opinion is usually - why do we care so much? 🤔 ⁣
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For me, it really has more to do with lack of self belief, which is another issue that occurs a lot with anxiety. ⁣
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Lack of belief that we will be able to conquer/survive what may come. ⁣
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😥 ..What if this happens, what if that happens. ⁣
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Anger and anxiety have a lot in common. We cannot control what other people think of us. The only thing we can control is our behavioral reactions and how we think of ourselves. 💛⁣
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Are you confident in the person you are? Even if someone else doesn’t see the great person you are, do you let it affect you because your stance on self could perhaps be stronger? 🤔 ⁣
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Just food for thought. 💭 ⁣
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So how do we work on this? (The potential anger issue). ⁣
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Bring awareness to your actions. Ask yourself if you sometimes tend to lose your cool due to fear of lack of control?⁣
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Positive Communication within your Relationships is a key factor to this. ⁣
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Eddie and I go deep into the topic of healthy relationships in our Healing From Within Workshop ⁣
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Healing from Within is an 8 week trauma workshop. DM Eddie or myself for more information. 👇🏽👇🏽⁣
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📲 Link is in my bio to apply. .Edwards_Counseling⁣
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