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🌿 A HEARTFELT REMINDER: YOU DON'T HAVE TO STAY IN THE HOLE 🌿

Today,I had a conversation with a family member about something that I believe so many people experience but don't always know how to explain.

Grief can come in waves.

Sometimes ,it starts with simply missing someone so deeply that it hurts.

Then y,ur mind begins traveling backward.

You start thinking about the past.
The things you wish you could change.
The conversations you wish had gone differently.
The decisions you wish you had made differently.
The moments you wish you could go back and fix.

And before you realize it, you're no longer just grieving the person you lost.

You're grieving the things you wish had been different in your life.

I've experienced this myself.

Grief can open the door to thoughts about everything that feels like it has gone wrong. And when you're already emotionally exhausted, it can become very easy to get stuck in that space.

You start questioning yourself.

You start replaying situations.

You start creating explanations for why things haphappenYou may even begin convincing yourself that if you had just done something differently, the outcome would have changed.

But here's something I've had to remind myself:

The past cancan not be relieved.

There may be things I wish I had done differently.

There may be things I wish I could change.

But I can't come back.

And neither can you.

That doesn't mean what happened doesn't matter.

It means we don't have to continue living inside something that has already happened.

The hole may always exist.

The person you miss may always be missed.

The memories may always carry emotion.

But you can learn how to climb out of that hole.

And sometimes climbing out doesn't mean feeling completely healed.

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And please remember: you don't have to crawl out of the hole all at once. Just find one place to put your foot and take the next step. 🦋