31/08/2026
想了很久還是覺得很生氣。
I've been thinking about this for a long time, and I'm still deeply angry.
為什麼當小星星已經很明確地搖頭推開，連我這個媽媽都說了很多次「不要」、「她不喜歡」的情況下，長輩還是強迫摸她，甚至連同身體一起摸、還去親她？
Why is it that when Star has clearly shaken her head and pushed them away, and even I as her mom have repeatedly said "No" and "She doesn't like it," relatives still forcefully touch her body and even kiss her?
有些動作太突然我根本擋不了，那一刻我是真的有想一巴掌下去的衝動，但對方又是親戚長輩。
Some actions were so sudden that I couldn't even block them in time—in that moment, I genuinely felt the urge to slap them, but they were older relatives.
尊重人這麼難嗎？難道「愛」的表現就是不尊重嗎？
Is respecting someone really that hard? Since when did the expression of "love" become disrespect?
不要說對一個小寶寶來說才見過幾次面的人基本上都跟陌生人一樣，甚至連我這個媽媽和她爸爸，在非必要的情況下，她如果搖頭拒絕我們碰她抱她，我們也絕對不會強迫。
Not to mention that to a small baby, people they've only met a few times are basically strangers; even her dad and I would never force her if she shakes her head no to being touched or held, unless it's strictly necessary.
可愛真的不是讓你亂摸的理由。
Being cute is truly not an excuse for you to touch her as you please.
回家的車上，小星星不讓我碰她，甚至是推開我握著汽車座椅的手，於是我就放開了。
On the drive home, Star wouldn't let me touch her, and even pushed my hand away from her car seat, so I let go.
她似乎在思考和測試，當她拒絕的時候，我是真的放開了手；隨後，她才又再伸出小手要我握握她。
She seemed to be processing and testing whether I would actually let go when she refused; only after that did she reach out her little hand again for me to hold.
我覺得她在疑惑，疑惑為什麼剛剛她明明拒絕了，那些人還要來碰她。
I feel like she was confused—confused about why those people still touched her when she had clearly rejected.
老一輩的文化，就是給我們的鍛鍊，我要她成為一個能勇敢說「不」的女孩。
The traditional culture of the older generation is a test for us;
I want her to grow into a brave girl who says "No."
#身體自主權 #從小學會說不 #尊重孩子 #三條魚的內心世界 #三條魚的小星星成長點滴
