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There’s been a lot of discussion about what young men believe. I’m more interested in what’s shaping those beliefs.

I’m glad to see AWARE’s latest research adding to the growing conversation around men and masculinity in Singapore.

The study raises important questions about younger men, emotional expression and traditional ideas of what men and women “should” do.

For me, its value is less about labelling a generation and more about opening up better questions. Experts have also cautioned against drawing sweeping conclusions from a single study, and AWARE itself describes the research as a starting point for deeper exploration.

That reflects what I see in my own professional work.

I do meet young men who hold quite traditional views about what it means to be a man. But I also meet many who are open, thoughtful and actively working out what masculinity means for them today.

So rather than simply asking, “What is wrong with young men?”, perhaps the bigger question is:

What is happening around our boys and young men?

What are they hearing about strength, success and masculinity? Where are they finding connection and belonging? Who are their role models? Where do they go when they feel lonely, uncertain, or wonder if they are good enough?

At Amicus, these questions sit behind our work with MenToo and the Men’s Charter. We are also partnering with Murdoch University on further research into men’s experiences. Clear evidence matters if we want to understand what is really happening and build support that genuinely helps. We’ll share more when the research is ready.

We are also exploring a support group for younger men, after hearing directly from young men about loneliness, wanting deeper connection, and wanting a space where they can talk openly.

I’m encouraged that more people are entering this conversation.

The more we can show up, speak up and grow together, the better we can support the boys and men around us.

-- Nicholas Gabriel Lim, Managing Partner, Amicus Psychological and Coaching Services; Co-founder, MenToo

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Separation and divorce can bring some of the hardest conversations and decisions a man will face.

How do you stay calm when emotions run high?
Protect your relationship with your children?
Make decisions you won’t regret later?

At our next MenToo Gathering: Men in Transition, we’ll explore practical ways to navigate separation with greater clarity, dignity and support.

📅 Tuesday, 25 August 2026
⏰ 7.00pm–9.30pm
📍 Singapore · Venue details shared upon registration
🎟️ Ticketed admission

You don’t have to go through it alone.

Show up. Speak up. Grow together.

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Monthly MenToo Gathering: Men In Transition [Upgrade to Premium Membership and enjoy 50% off for this event using the code: MENTOOGO27]ABOUT THIS EVENT Every Conversation and Decision Matters! Separation and divorce can bring some of the most difficult conversations and life-changing decisions a man will ever face. What should you say, and wh...

Many men become very good at looking like they are okay.

They show up for work, care for their families, carry responsibilities and keep going. Sometimes, the more capable or successful they appear, the harder it feels to admit that they are struggling.

This is at the heart of Vietnam TV in Singapore’s recent feature on MenToo.

Danny Loong and Amir Khan Ansari come from different worlds, but both have experienced difficult periods they found hard to speak about. For Amir, what helped was not someone trying to fix everything. It was having Danny as a safe person he could talk to openly.

The encouraging thing is that a safe space can begin with just one person who is willing to listen without judgment.

The feature also shares how Murdoch University Singapore is studying men’s lived experiences, helping to build the evidence for better support and longer-term change.

We are glad this conversation is reaching more people. Not simply because MenToo is being seen beyond Singapore, but because each conversation helps expand our idea of what strength can look like.

Strength can be speaking honestly.
Strength can be asking for support.
Strength can also be showing up for someone else.

If a man in your life opens up, you do not need to have the perfect words. You can simply start with: “I’m here. Tell me more.”

Every honest conversation is a step towards a culture where more men feel able to speak, connect and move forward.

Watch the VTV feature:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwSiNY3Uhuk



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Behind the scenes at Amicus 🎥

Nick and Ben have been working on new content designed to make some of the conversations we have every day a little more accessible.

Things like:
• How do you handle conflict without making things worse?
• What helps when family relationships feel strained?
• How do you support yourself, your partner or your children through difficult transitions?
• When might it be useful to speak to someone?

We know it isn’t always easy to know where to start, especially when life already feels complicated.

So we’re creating more practical, grounded content to help people understand their options, ask better questions and take the next step with a little more clarity.

More coming soon.

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This National Day, we’re thinking about strength.

Not only the strength to achieve or endure, but the strength to ask for help, repair what matters, begin again and care for one another.

Because a stronger Singapore is built not just on what we achieve, but on how we show up for one another.

Happy National Day, Singapore. 🇸🇬

What becomes possible when men feel safe enough to lower their guard?

At our inaugural monthly MenToo Gathering, men came together to explore a question many quietly carry: "Am I enough?"

What followed was an evening of honest conversation, deep reflection, laughter and vulnerability. Different experiences were shared, but one thing became clear: none of us has to navigate these questions alone.

Big shout out to Bros Before Woes for guiding the gathering, and to every man who showed up, listened without judgment and helped create a space of genuine trust and connection.

Ready to take the conversation deeper?

#1 Join Bros Before Woes’ 8-Week Programme

Beginning on 22 August 2026 --> Designed for men ready to reflect honestly, move beyond what may be holding them back and grow alongside a trusted brotherhood.

Learn more: [https://brosbeforewoes.com/8weekprogram](https://brosbeforewoes.com/8weekprogram)

#2 Join our next MenToo Gathering

Men in Transition: Navigating Divorce or Separation

A space to explore difficult emotions, important conversations and the decisions that matter : for ourselves, our children and the relationships we value.

📅 Tuesday, 25 August 2026
⏰ 7:00–9:30 PM
📍 Singapore
🎟️ Ticketed admission

Register here https://nas.com/mentoo/events/menintransition

Show up. Speak up. Grow together.



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When is enough… enough?

Smart enough. Brave enough. Successful enough. Man enough.

Join us tomorrow for MenToo’s inaugural monthly gathering : a judgment-free space to have honest conversations about the expectations men carry and explore: What might “enough” look like for each of us?

📅 Tuesday, 28 July
⏰ 7:00–9:30 PM
📍 Odeon Towers, Singapore
🎟️ S$15 (if you signed up as a member)

Register: https://nas.com/mentoo/events/monthly07



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Two men can be carrying the exact same weight and need completely different doors out of it.

Some men need a space to talk, reflect, and rebuild a sense of who they are. Others need something harder: help breaking a pattern they've been stuck in, with accountability alongside the support.

That's why we're glad the MenToo network now includes two more.

Authentic Men Asia, gives men a place to move past silence and be honest about what they're carrying, in community with others doing the same.

Fellowship of Men (Singapore) works alongside men in some of the hardest conversations there are, including helping men in family violence situations recognise the pattern, take responsibility, and build something healthier instead.

Neither organisation could do everything on its own. Together with the rest of the MenToo network, there are now more doors, and more chances that a man finds the one that actually fits what he's going through.

If that's you, or someone you know, reach out. The right door is easier to find than you think.

Join them or any of the Men's community groups here:
https://nas.com/mentoo/digital-files/mentoo-mens-groups

If you need more professional support, DM us or email us at

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We are encouraged to see family justice receiving sustained attention at the national level.

For families going through divorce, the legal process is only one part of the journey. What happens around it, and long after it, can shape the wellbeing of parents and children for years.

That is why it matters that policymakers are listening closely to practitioners who see the realities, pressures and gaps in the system firsthand.

At Amicus, we believe better outcomes come when legal, psychological and relational needs are considered together. There is more work to do, but continued attention, honest dialogue and thoughtful reform are important steps forward.

Behind every case is not just a legal matter, but a family trying to find its footing again.

This reflects an approach we care deeply about at Amicus.

Through our lens of care, we believe that when families are already going through a difficult and painful period, the process need not add more conflict or deepen the hurt.

In everyday terms, Therapeutic Justice means looking beyond who wins or loses. It asks: How can we reduce further harm? How do we protect the children? How do we help people take responsibility and find a more constructive way forward?

It does not avoid difficult conversations or legal realities. Rather, it brings compassion, dignity and care into how they are handled.

At Amicus, this is how we approach our work across legal, psychological and coaching support: not simply seeking resolution, but helping people move towards greater stability, healing and peace wherever possible.

We are encouraged to see this approach continuing to shape Singapore’s family justice system. A family justice system grounded in care is something we can, and must, keep building together.