Charlene Lam - Grief Coach

“I honor my father’s memory by taking amazing care of his child.” Maybe your father figure died. Maybe he’s ill, estranged, geographically or emotionally distant, or just not the dad you deserved. If you’re grieving or missing him, sending lots of love to you and a gentle reminder you are worthy of care. Not just basic care (though we can start there), but exquisite, sumptuous care 💖

A father’s notebooks. A son’s search for answers. In this poignant clip from our short film Curating Grief: Loss and Objects, London-based filmmaker Jamie Max Lee shares his encounters with his father Torben’s notebooks after he died.

Sending love to everyone who’s missing their dad or parental figure as head toward Father’s Day weekend 💖

So much grief, and so much joy. Roosevelt Island, in the middle of the East River in NYC. You are missed, Carlo and Peter.

How does your culture or heritage affect your grief? Here are 5 ways my Asian-American heritage shaped my experiences of grief and loss — and many surprised me!

1️⃣ A lot of assumptions about how Asians grieve or approach death and dying.

2️⃣ Not talking about illness and death was the norm in my family.

3️⃣ Superstition played a big role.

4️⃣ Disconnect with traditions.

5️⃣ Multilayered losses.

Have you experienced something similar?

Find the full video and post at charlenelam.com

Mother’s Day permission slip: You can celebrate or not. I don’t know yet if I’ll be crying or laughing this Sunday. Likely both. 😅

Mother’s Day can bring up a lot for grievers, whether you’ve lost your mom, your mum, or mother figure to death, estrangement, illness, or other circumstances. My advice? Cope with Mother’s Day in the way that’s right for you!

Some years, I feel like celebrating and I do a big ceremony, with flowers and red ribbon dancing. Other years, I prefer to stay in bed with magazines and potato chips. Let’s meet ourselves where we are.

The full video with my 5 Tips for Mother’s Day for Grieving People is at CharleneLam.com/mothersday
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