Holistic Human Being

People tend to respect you
only as much as you respect yourself.

And what you allow
quietly teaches people
how to treat you —
without you saying a word.

I don’t have to scream
or kick up a fuss
to have my boundaries respected
or my needs met.

I simply notice.

Those who meet me
with presence, care and respect.

And those who are always too busy,
make it all about themselves,
or show a lack of care
in the connection.

And I choose accordingly.

I don’t pursue, nor avoid.
I don’t blame.
I don’t shame.

I understand what I feel and need,
and express it clearly and calmly.

Then I let them respond.

If they take the time to reflect,
understand, and communicate —
I trust the connection more deeply.

If they deflect, shame, or create drama instead —
I disengage.

Sometimes that means
“losing a friend.”

But do I really want people in my life
who are inconsistent or disappear,
who take more than they're willing to give,
who talk about themselves
but forget to ask how I am,
and always have something “more important”?

Or do I want relationships
that feel balanced and mutual —
secure connections I can trust and feel safe in?

I used to mourn a friendship deeply.
I used to try to fix and change the situation —
or overlook things to keep the peace.

Today, I see it differently.

It simply brings clarity.

And clarity is a gift —
this ability to recognise
what is aligned
and what is not.

And it’s not about how often we meet or talk.
It’s about the energy between us when we do.

My intimate circle is smaller now.
But it feels a lot more real.

Quality matters.

Because we live in a world where
masks often replace authenticity,
where there can be a gap
between what people say
and what they actually do,
and where distortion can masquerade
as true connection.

So when you raise your standards,
when you become clear
on how you want to be treated —
what's okay and what's not —
and live in alignment with that...

what remains
is honest, grounded, and real.

Because deep down,
you know what you deserve.

The real pain
comes when you abandon yourself —
to not lose others.

But when you honour yourself
no matter the outcome,

those who remain
are the ones
who truly care for you,

I love the girl in the mirror.

Yes, her.
The one I used to look away from.
The one I used to judge as not being good enough.
The one I neglected while trying to please others,
hoping to be loved in return.

We’re best friends now.
She’s the most important person in my life.
And I don’t abandon her anymore.

Look how far she’s come —
I’m so proud of her.
I appreciate her so much.

I know her.
And I love her — all of her,
even the parts I once found hard to love.

Because it wasn’t always this way.

I didn’t even realise how beautiful she was in her younger years —
how small she felt.

How many times I made her small.
How many times I kept her small.

Until I learned to be proud of her,
that girl in the mirror.

And I forgave her everything —
the times she gave too much,
the times she forgot herself,
and the times she felt guilty
for taking care of herself first.

Everything changed
when I looked into her eyes
and made a decision.

I’m with you.
I choose you.
I will love you — no matter what.

I used to think my people were the spiritual ones.
The holistic ones.
The like-minded, like-hearted souls who saw the world the way I did.

And then I met him.

My favourite person — who is nothing like me.

His nature is deeply human, earthy, fully in his body.
Here. Now.

My nature tends towards the spiritual, the conceptual, and the intuitive.
Everywhere. Timelessly.

Though I discovered:
Spirituality is worth very little if it isn’t embodied.
And knowledge means very little if it isn’t lived.

Because it’s easy to conceptualise…
much harder to actually be with life as it is.

When we came together, something else became possible.

Because he meets life primarily through feeling.
And I meet life primarily through awareness.

Together… something expands.

Not one overpowering the other.
But both existing at once.

It feels like two polarities —
the earthly and the spiritual —
meeting and softening into each other.

In the heart.

And I’m realising more and more…

What we need more of is
not more understanding,
but more contact with our aliveness —
with life itself.

More presence.
More real moments, shared.

Maybe that’s what love does.

Not sameness. But expansion.

The person most different from us
can expand our capacity
to hold more of life.

More breadth.
More depth.
More truth.
More of what is.

And I’m deeply grateful for that.

For a long time, I thought I was inconsistent.

I would feel clear, connected, motivated…

And then, after some time, it would all drop.

And I made it mean something about me.

I told myself I lacked discipline.
That I wasn’t good enough.
That I wasn’t doing enough.

Something wasn’t working.

But looking back, it was always the same pattern.

I would start from a place where I felt good:

Connected.
Grounded.
Confident.

Fully myself...

And then when that state shifted…
everything else wobbled too.

My thoughts got messy.
My energy dropped.
My behaviour got flakey.

I would procrastinate, or just stop.

Not because I wasn't keen.

But because I was no longer in the same internal state that made it possible.

This realisation changed how I see things completely.

Because it means it’s not about trying harder to do more.

It’s about understanding what actually creates that state shift in the first place.

And learning how to come back to balance when I wobble.

Not perfectly.
But with more awareness.
More intention.
And more choice.

And that's changing everything.

When we change the way we look at things,
the things we look at change.

Lately, I’ve been experimenting with this.

Not with the big global things—
just the small, everyday moments.

The rude customer at the supermarket checkout.
That thing my boyfriend did that didn’t quite land well.

And I started noticing something 🥰

There’s always a moment—
a very small one—
before I react.

A pause.

In that moment, I’ve been turning inward.

To notice what’s happening in me.

The thoughts.
The meaning I’m giving to things.
How it feels in my body.

Not to judge it—
just to see it.

And something shifts there.

Not because I force it—
but because by looking,
I’m no longer driven by it.

There's more openness.
More possibilities.
And a little more choice.

It’s subtle.

But it shifts the whole experience—
how I feel,
how I respond,
and how the moment unfolds.

I’m realising more and more that
it’s not just what happens…
it’s how I meet it.

And when that softens,
the moment softens too.

I’m still practising this.

But even small shifts here—
attending to what’s happening inside
instead of reacting to what’s happening outside—
are changing my lived experience more than I ever imagined.

What's the fuss about 08.08 Lion's Gate?

Astrological alignments and magical portals for ultimate manifestation are cool 🧙✨ yet even more potent is the power of intention that's within you! 🔥

So even if astrology, magic and all that may sound a little woo-woo to you, just think about the benefit of having clarity about what's truly important to you and what your heart truly desires ❤️‍🔥

That clarity becomes a compass 🧭 that effortlessly guides your day-to-day choices to bring you to your ultimate becoming: That super version of yourself living the ultimate fulfilling life!

The key 🗝️ is focusing on the WHAT and the WHY, while trusting the unfolding to show you HOW! Then intuition and impulses to action will guide you 🙏

Now if Lion's Gate is said to be a fantastic time to dream your dreams into manifestation, why not jump on the wagon of opportunity to self-reflect on this? 😁

Try these journalling prompts:

✍️ If money were not an issue, what would I be doing?

✍️ If everything I hope and more came true, how would I be introducing myself to the world? (personally and professionally)

The idea is to realise what you love to do, your passions, values and contribution. There's no right and wrong way, just allow your own curiosity to guide your flow...

As if words are spells, tap into your Next Level as if it's already happening. Use "I am..." statements, engage your senses and emotions ❤️‍🔥 know in your heart that as you can dream it you can live it!!

I loved doing this exercise for myself, such inner wisdom can shine through! ☀️

In fact, I'll be sharing more about my inner journey of these past few months: why I withdrew, to realign, and take a new trajectory in life. 🧭

And it was this exercise that helped me to tangible-ise (is that a word? 🙈) my process into ultimate clarity! Even an upgraded identity! Now I'm so excited to share with you all that's new!!!! 🥰

So I'm wishing you the best, enjoy your exploration process and have a great Lion powered day! 🦁🔥❤️