Nancy Abela Trauma Informed Coaching

Please stop berating yourself. You did not 'allow' the abuse. You were set up and groomed. Your wounds were weaponised against you 📢📢📢

Your job is to teach him to disagree respectfully, not to 'win' at the cost of crushing his spirit 📢📢📢

Romantic love is not supposed to be unconditional. Unconditional love is a love that cannot be lost and should not have to be earned. It starts in babyhood when the baby has zero responsibilities, and then responsibilities and boundaries are increased as the child develops, without the fear of losing the love of the parent.

In romantic relationships love is different. It is Reciprocal Love: Love that requires mutuality, equal investment, and shared effort to remain healthy and sustained.

If you are expecting unconditional love from your partner (zero responsibility, 100% acceptance), you either never received unconditional love as a child or you were never taught boundaries, responsibility and intentionality.

It's never too late to learn 💪🔥🔥🔥

Hyperindependence is a trauma response. It is a sign of nervous system injury, not strength ❤️‍🩹

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People pleasers must build their resilience by staying with the uncomfortable feelings without acting on them 📢📢📢

I train my clients to recognise patterns (clarity) and to put boundaries as early as possible. You don't need to wait until you hit rock bottom. The cost is too high 📢📢📢

The only real relief is being resourced to build a life worth living 💪👑🔥