The Chaos Coach

Here are 5 quotes that I live by every single day and how you can apply them to improve your mental strength ⬇️

1. “Control the controllable’s and accept the uncontrollable’s”

Stop wasting energy fighting things you have no power over. You can’t control other people, the past, the weather, rejection or every outcome.

You CAN control your effort, attitude, actions and response.

Peace comes from knowing the difference.

2. “Spend your time chasing butterflies, they’ll fly away. Spend your time creating a beautiful garden and butterflies will come.” 🦋

I’ve learned this massively from previous relationships.

When you stop chasing people & validation and start working on yourself, it changes everything.

Work on your health, build confidence through facing fear, develop your skills and create a life you’re proud of.

When you become obsessed with building your own “garden”, you stop needing to chase things to feel fulfilled. Ironically, that’s when the right people and opportunities start finding you.

3. “I’d rather be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war”

Build strength before life demands it from you.

Train your body, develop discipline and learn how to handle pressure.

You don’t prepare because you want hardship - you prepare because hardship is inevitable

Choose peace, but be capable.

4. “In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king” 👑

Most people massively overestimate what’s required to get ahead. They wait until they feel like experts before taking action… or just never take action at all.

Learn the basics, apply them, make mistakes, learn again and keep moving forward.

Whether it’s training, business, relationships or personal development. Small amounts of knowledge consistently applied can seperate you from people who know plenty but never act.

5. “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change”

Change is uncomfortable. But eventually, staying where you are will become even more uncomfortable.

Don’t always wait for rock bottom before deciding it’s time for change. Take the risk, face the fear and reap the rewards.

If you think it’s not right for you, it probably isn’t.

This was my third time speaking at The Consistency Code 🧠

For whatever reason, I was way more nervous than last time or even the first time!

I had so many doubts running through my head and was genuinely shaking with fear driving up to the event…

I hadn’t felt nerves like this in such a long time!

I was certain that I was going to f**k this up 🙃

But what I anticipated, was the complete opposite of the outcome

That’s the biggest lesson I wanted people to take from my talk:

You can’t always control the thoughts that enter your head, but you CAN control what you do with them.

When your mind starts to spiral 🌀 Use this 👇

C - Catch the thought
H - Hold it
A - Ask questions
O - Other perspective
S - Step forward

You don’t need to eliminate anxiety, fear or self doubt before taking action

Sometimes you need to let your mind talk and just do it anyway!

What can I say about the past 7 days…

Two marathons, Third Public Speaking Event & Fourth Holm Fitness Games

Life has come at me so fast lately. Working 70+ hr weeks, looking after clients, pushing my body to its limits and working in the dark on my future

For the first time in months I’ve taken the time to reflect on just how far I’ve came this year, what I’ve achieved and been genuinely proud of myself

Behind every successful man is a strong woman and I couldn’t ask for better support than what I get from Bethanie

Every day this girl pushes me to be better, shows me the tough love I need, doesn’t drag me into comfort and a lot of my growth is a reflection of our relationship

Also having friends like Jamie in your corner, I say “Send it” and he says “How fast”, is exactly the type of brothers you need in your life

The support I’ve had from my family, especially Mum & Dad helping me out and supporting me as much as they possibly can never goes unnoticed either, without them I wouldn’t be the man I am today

I’m fortunate enough to be surrounded by Men & Women every single day that inspire me to do better and lead from the front

All I want to do as a person, a friend and a Coach is show people that anything is possible when you work hard enough and put your mind to it

So I guess this post is about appreciation for the people I have in my corner.

My family, my girlfriend, my friends, my team

I have every single one of you to thank for moments like this

I love you all with everything I have ❤️

The lessons that changed my life weren’t learned through education

They were learned through mistakes.

Failure.
Heartbreak.
Addiction.
Depression.
Consequences.

Most people want a better life, very few are willing to take responsibility for creating one

So let me ask you…

Are your current habits moving you closer to the life you want?

Or further away from it?

Because the quality of your future is hidden inside the choices you’re making today

Which lesson in this post hit you the hardest?

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How many times have you promised yourself things would be different?

Next week, next month, after the holiday, when work settles down..

Yet here you are stuck in the same cycle.

How much longer are you willing to tolerate a life you know you’re capable of improving?

And what is it costing you by staying the same?

Something to think about 🧠

For years I convinced myself that life would change when the timing was right.

“I’ll start on Monday”

“I’ll sort myself out after the weekend”

“What harm can one more night do?”

I repeated the same bu****it to myself for weeks on end.

The weaks turned into months, months turned into years.

But why couldn’t I break the cycle?

The problem wasn’t that I didn’t know what I needed to do

The problem was I kept waiting for perfect conditions to do it

So I kept going round in circles

Repeating the same habits and behaviours

And always paying the price of guilt, shame and regret.

I was trapped in a cycle of self-sabotage. And I know so many people who still are!

Everything changed when I stopped waiting and started taking responsibility

Not because I suddenly became motivated

Not because I finally figured it all out

But because the pain of staying the same became greater than the pain of growth

A few years later, I’ve learned that failure isn’t something we should fear

Failure is part of the process.

The real danger is staying exactly where you are because you’re scared of what might happen

The perfect time isn’t coming, stop waiting for it.

There’s a huge difference between interest and commitment.

Interest works when it’s convenient

Commitment works no matter what

Interest likes the thought of achieving the goal

Commitment falls in love with the process

Most people are interested

Very few are committed

Because commitment requires a different version of you

One that keeps promises to themselves

Chooses delayed over instant gratification

And stops listening to their feelings

That’s the part most people struggle with.

Because it can be extremely uncomfortable

Yet everything you’ve ever wanted sits on the other side of that discomfort.

Physical pain is one of the greatest teachers you’ll ever have.

Voluntary discomfort is where you discover something most people rarely learn

The body is very rarely the first thing to quit.

Every time you push through a long run, hard workout, long hike or some form of physical challenge, you’re collecting evidence

Evidence that you can handle more.

Evidence that discomfort won’t kill you.

Evidence that your limits aren’t where you thought they were.

And once you learn that physically, you start applying it elsewhere 👇

Business.

Relationships.

Fatherhood.

Life.

The man who can stay calm and keep moving when things get uncomfortable has an advantage most people will never understand.

That’s why we do hard things

Not because suffering is the goal 🎯

Because growth is 🚀

Every time you make an excuse, you teach yourself that fear is in charge.

“I’m not fit enough”

“I’m not ready for this”

“I might do it next time”

On the surface, these excuses seem harmless.

But every excuse reinforces the belief that you’re incapable

And over time, that destroys confidence.

Most people think confidence comes before action.

It doesn’t..

Confidence is built by keeping promises to yourself.

By doing things that scare you.

By stepping into situations where there’s a chance you might fail.

By proving to yourself that you’re capable of more than you thought.

That’s exactly why Organised Chaos exists.

Not to test your fitness, but to test your mindset.

Every man who takes part arrives with doubts

Every man leaves with evidence that he’s stronger than he believed.

The question isn’t, “Am I ready to do this?”

The question is, “Am I prepared to stay the same?”

Organised Chaos 6.0 is coming ⏳

Will you keep making excuses?

Or will you finally find out what you’re truly capable of?

The storm said Organised Chaos was doomed ⚡️

Turned out to be one of the best experiences of our lives!

A lesson in why you should never let circumstances decide your future.

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