Trauma Informed Child Protection Lawyer 👩🏻‍💼
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13/07/2026
Over the years I’ve collected a number of books which I’ve found to really help in the nuance of separation, coercive control of children, support and develop critical thinking and help with anxiety.
Comment “BOOK” and il send over the list to you.
Equally if there are any other books you can suggest to the community I will look to add them on x
11/07/2026
Research from the National Centre for Domestic Violence reveals that domestic abuse incidents increase by 26% when our national team plays, 38% if they lose, and 11% the day after, regardless of the outcome.
While watching football does not cause abuse, it can act as a trigger in relationships where abuse is already present.
Statistics indicate that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime.
My DMs are open to anyone worried about the game tonight ❤️
SAVE this for when you might need it.
Many of you book in with me to prepare you for speaking to CAFCASS. I always suggest speaking to a professional because it is the nuance of your case that requires reflection and tailored advice, but, until then - this video is a starting point.
As a lawyer with significant child protection experience I have read, considered and supported in the redrafting of expert assessments.
Here are 5 things to consider before speaking to cafcass:
1. Consider and organise the safeguarding concerns (if any). Not just what you consider to be a risk as a parent , but through the lens of a professional.
2. This isn’t about convincing them - needing to show them everything and prove you’re the one in the right. That’s for fact findings - cafcass may say that one is necessary so they can determine how to appropriately assess safely.
3. Don’t label, berate or speak badly of your ex - this then becomes a “parental conflict” issue. Speak with reflection, emotional awareness and through the lens of the child. This can take practice and easier said than done when you’ve suffered in the relationship and continue to do so post.
4. Emotional regulation - speak from your heart but stay grounded
5. Speak up at the start rather than mid way through (preferably)
08/07/2026
Sadly what we’ve come to learn is that abuse rarely ends when the relationship does. It can get SO much worse or it can just change its direction. You can be thankful for the peace in the home but still live constantly on edge.
Court proceedings. False allegations. Financial control. Harassment. Using the children. Endless conflict designed to keep you emotionally exhausted. Nervous system on edge. Little to no legal respite. It’s debilitating.
If you’ve ever felt like you escaped the relationship but not the abuse, this support group is for you.
This Monday, we come together in a safe, confidential space to talk, learn, be heard, and remind one another that you are not imagining it, and you are not alone.
No judgement. No pressure. Just women who understand.
Comment “SUPPORT” below, and we’ll send you all the details. 🤍
Every Monday the LegallyNik Support Circle offers something different for you; Betrayal Trauma, Post Separation Abuse, Court Support and Single Parenting - you can join 1, 2, 3 or all 4 of these groups if you need them.
It’s been a long road going from shame to pride but you do get there x
A lot of putting yourself out there.
A lot of “I’m not used to this”
A lot of “I’m not sure I have enough energy/capacity/time for this”
Zero regrets.
Finding your tribe during dark times is that light that starts to beam at the end of the tunnel
Well done .goff for hosting another RISE event! Bringing a group of strangers together to share, support and band together ❤️
I always say, it’s like YOU were the one that cheated, rather than them!!!
02/07/2026
We’re starting our Support Circles on Monday. ❤️
Every Monday will be dedicated to a different support group, including:
• Court Support
• Post-Separation Abuse
• Single Parenting Support
• Betrayal Trauma
Our very first session will focus on betrayal trauma, a subject that is incredibly close to my heart.
Throughout the first month, my priority is getting to know you, hearing your voice, and creating a safe, supportive community. From then on, we’ll be welcoming guest experts to share their knowledge and answer your questions.
If you’d like to join us on Monday, simply comment “SUPPORT” below, and we’ll DM you all the details. ❤️