Dufflyn Lammers Relationship & Recovery Coaching

A nuggets from my chat with and Dominique Farrar yesterday.

Healthy relationships are all about boundaries— and that’s not just about what you don’t do, or what you don’t want, it’s about what you do, and what you’re inviting in.

This little exercise is a tried and true tip that will help create more connection, communication, clarity, and harmony in your Couple.

Have a weekly or biweekly check-in, where each partner gets to share:

Appreciations
New Information
Puzzles
Complaints/ Requests for Change
Whisked Hopes and Dreams

Each person gets to just share and be heard. No responding. No solving the problem for each other. Just connecting.

If you’d like more tips like these and you’re interested in learning about boundaries come out to my workshop this Saturday in Paris.

BOUNDARIES OF THE BLACK Saturday March 14, 3-6pm in the Maraus in person!

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I’ve been checking out some of these books out of curiosity, and they are so addictive! I say that as a coach who works with love and addiction. And love addiction. That said, when we consume any media consciously, we can both enjoy it and learn from it.

When it comes to attachment, it’s fun to speculate, although obviously the only way to really know your attachment style is to do a clinical assessment. If that’s something you’re interested in reach out in the DM’s.

I’ve recently started reading romantic books. There’s a lot to talk about. But even out there in the everyday world, the idea of soulmates gets a lot of press. And I’m here to tell you I think it causes way more problems than it solves.

If we believe that, there’s only one soulmate out there, one person who was our other half and who we must find, and we believe we have found that person, well we will do just about anything, and except just about anything in order to make that relationship work. That could lead us down a very destructive path.

What if soulmates are something you build, instead of something you find? ♥️

Got boundaries? They are as basic as that little black dress hanging in your closet. And yet you seem to have forgotten them. You might feel like you’re walking around in your underwear. You might feel taken advantage of. You might feel overcommitted. You might feel really pi**ed off and not know how to say so. If that’s the case, I’ve got a solution for you.

This 3 hour in person workshop will teach you:

⭐️ What boundaries really are

⭐️ How to know where to draw the line

⭐️ How to use Non Violent Communication

⭐️ A formula for setting boundaries with toxic people

⭐️ What to do if your boundaries aren’t working

You’ll learn a 3 Step process for setting boundaries AND practice them so that you’re prepared for next time!

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I just finished my first romantic book and I am learning so much! If you are a reader of it can get confusing sometimes.
and there is plenty we can take From this literature that will help us in real life situations, as long as we look at it with a dose of maturity as well as humor 💖

This Valentines Day I wanted to shake things up. I’ve been taking it to the streets lately to talk to real people about real love. And my friend inspired me to do that with his daily flash mobs In Paris. So this was a collaboration and a special edition of Flas d’Amour. For fun, for free, for Love. ❤️