Ashley Velvet Frost

POV: you watch your friend who ‘doesn’t watch TV’ lose her mind watching episodes 4 + 5 of

This is part three of three in a series on unsafe leaders predatory energy in healing spaces. If you haven’t watched parts one and two, start there first.

You’ve noticed the signs. Your body has been speaking. Now here’s what to do with that:

✋🏻Don’t skip past what you’re feeling. Anger, disgust, sadness, rage - these are boundary emotions. They exist to tell you when something is violating your safety. That’s not drama. That’s data.

🤔Reality check with yourself first. Is this my history being activated or is something actually happening in this space? Both can be true at the same time.

🗣️Find someone completely outside the container to talk to. Not someone also in the space. A therapist, supervisor, trusted person with no loyalty to the teacher or community.

🌳If you choose to name it - stay grounded, stay factual. Name what you noticed, not what you’ve concluded. If they won’t hear it, that response is itself information.

📝Document privately from the moment you notice. Same day, specific, factual. Memory distorts - especially after you’ve been gaslit.

👀Watch what happens to others who have named things before you. If they’ve been quietly pushed out or discredited - that’s information. Healthy containers can be challenged and stay standing.

🚶‍♀️If you need to leave - the money you paid, the relationships you’ve formed, the work you’ve started - none of that obligates you to stay somewhere that isn’t safe. Leaving is data, not failure.

😔And grieve it if the work was real. The healing, the community, the person you believed in - all of that can be genuine and this can still be true at the same time.

If you ever need support or someone to share with regarding experiences such as these my inbox is always open.

With love,
Ashley