19/09/2026
I'd like to congratulate myself for not reaching for the packet of super noodles I found in the back of the cupboard whilst forcing myself to deep clean the kitchen and forcing myself to prep something of nutritional value ,even if only to eat half of it !
So what is actually happening during perimenopause when your motivation gets hijacked and there's ZERO rewards for your efforts???
You're not lazy ladies ,your declining estrogen and progesterone are producing less seretonin and dopamine, the brain chemicals responsible for reward,joy,motivation.....tasks that used to.feel easy exciting and fulfilling now feel pointless and exhausting!!!!
The internal conversation shifts from..today im going to the gym, then ill clean,shower, meet a friend for coffee and laughs ,have a mooch in town then go home get ready and go out for drinks this evening too....
What's the absolute bare minimum I can get away with before I can get back in the house ,shut the door and not speak to anyone ....it's real ! Our hormones are our drivers and we loose 95 % during perimenopause so if this is you today and you managed the bare minimum give yourself a pat on the back because when your hormones are on their ass and you manage to get through your day with any ounce of CAPACITY you've shown up for yourself when you probably really didnt want too.
I thought I could out eat the menopause with spot on nutrition because I know all about nutrition..the reality ,I have zero appetite and zero desire to eat, I could out train the menopause because I understand the importance of metabolic health and how to lift with progressive overload , the reality is my tolerance for people sitting on kit on phones or holding kit with sweat towels,bags,water bottles whilst they work somewhere else requires a level of tolerance I no longer have (if you're physically not on it you're not using it) it's a working environment, I thought with all my knowledge, experience and muscle id be in good shape for this transition.
This week I beg to differ !!!! My hormones must be at an all time low because absolutely nooooooo amount of melatonin is getting me past 45 minutes sleep at night, no amount of prescription thc/cbd and magnesium is switching off my violent restless legs and Chris Martin could knock on my door and ask me if I was playing out and it'd be a flat no !!!!
So what do we do ????
We either heavily medicate (not the answer) Google search ADHD,bipolar,personality disorders(not the answer) or we cut ourselves some slack and recognise that there will be hours,days,weeks,months where perimenopause is utterly s**t and just allow the body to do it's thing ,safe in the knowledge....it's not forever, it's just for now .
So if you're in the midst of ....fck me this is s**t ,im sending you a honest ,heartfelt hug ,take a deep breath and keep on keeping on ###
