Ben Wright

42lbs down is obviously an incredible result, but with Noah there’s a lot more to it than just losing the weight.

He came to me knowing he’d let things slip a bit. Training wasn’t where he wanted it, he wasn’t feeling great about himself and he needed some accountability to get things moving again.

Since then his strength has gone through the roof, his energy is up, he’s got into cycling, he’s signing himself up for events he never thought he’d do and he’s just committed to another year of coaching with me.

I also finally got to meet him and train together after coaching him all the way from America, which was class.

Great leader of other men and genuinely just an awesome bloke to coach.

And we’re nowhere near finished yet.

If you’re ready to see what you could do over the next 6–12 months, comment “COACHING” and I’ll have a chat with you.

Most dads I speak to actually want to get themselves in better shape. The problem is they keep trying to do it in a way that doesn’t really work with their life.

Five sessions a week sounds great until work runs late, one of the kids has you up half the night or the weekend gets busy. Miss a couple of things and suddenly it feels like you’re back at square one again.

I’d rather see a dad do three decent sessions every week for the next six months than chase the perfect week and keep having to restart.

Keep it simple, work with the time you’ve got and build from there.

If this sounds like you, comment GROUP and I’ll send you the link to our free Rebuilding the Man WhatsApp group.

It’s been a great few days

Edinburgh fringe - more coffee than my adrenals can handle - time with the most important

That’s all.

Have a great week ahead.

One of the hardest parts of becoming a dad is realising how easy it is to lose yourself in it.

I’ve got three boys at completely different stages of life. My eldest is an adult, I co-parent my nearly three-year-old, and now I’ve got a four-month-old baby at home. Add a relationship, running a business, clients relying on me and all the normal pressure of providing for a family, and life gets busy quickly.

I love being a dad. I love my family. But I’ve learned how easy it is to give so much to everyone else that eventually there’s very little left for you.

Training gets pushed aside. You see your mates less. Your own goals disappear. You stop doing things simply because you enjoy them. And you convince yourself that’s just part of being a responsible dad.

I’m much more conscious of that now.

I train. I run. I look after my health. I make time for my relationship. I see my mates. I set myself goals that have absolutely nothing to do with work or being a dad.

Because I know what happens when I stop doing those things.

I’m less patient. My energy drops. I’m not as happy. I don’t feel like myself. And eventually the people I thought I was sacrificing everything for aren’t actually getting the best version of me anyway.

I’m Dad. I’m a partner. I’m a coach. I’m a provider.

But I’m still Ben underneath all of that.

I want my boys to grow up knowing that you can love your family, take your responsibilities seriously and still make space for yourself.

That doesn’t make you a selfish dad.

For me, it helps me be a better one.

What’s one part of yourself you’d like to get back?