Elif Köse Transformational Confidence Coach

I still remember when it was just me.

No one, in a room, waiting. Two people had booked and they didnt turn up! You know that feeling!? It gets better keep reading...

Then it was 5 women in a local coffee shop.

Then 15 of us in a Turkish restaurant.

Then 50 tickets was sold, following year doubled it and we counted more 200 women who had shown up for something I built from nothing.

And now I sit across the table from industry leaders, real experts, people I used to only follow, and they call me a peer.

But here is what nobody tells you about that climb.
Confidence is not having it all together while everyone claps. It is not the sold out room and the applause of friends and family, though in the beginning, most of them do love and support you. They cheer loudest at the start.
Then you stay consistent.

You keep showing up when it is hard, when it is unglamorous, when nobody is watching. And something shifts. The same people who cheered start to pull away. Your success starts to look like bragging to them. They mute you. They unfollow you. They leave you off the invite, in their own way, so you feel smaller.

And here is the part that stings the most, it did me anyway. Some of them get close to the very people you introduced them to. You hear about it later, almost by accident.

I want you to know something if this has ever happened to you.

That is not rejection. That is a mirror. They are witnessing what real integrity, honesty and determination look like, and they know deep down they have not built that in themselves. So they w**d themselves out. Not because you did anything wrong, but because your growth asked something of them they were not ready to give.
Do not look back for them. There is nothing behind you worth chasing.

The only way is forward. Keep building the life you actually want to live in, not the one that keeps everyone comfortable around you. When you are old and you look back on your one life, none of this will matter except whether you lived it as yourself, fully, without shrinking.

So be confident. Move on. Trust the process, trust your own hands, trust the woman you are becoming.

She remembers who she is. That is enough.

My sisters, this one comes from the heart.

For centuries, men were taught to build their lives around themselves first. Their health, their ambitions, their joy. We were taught the opposite. To shrink. To center him and call it love, when really it was self-abandonment in disguise.

It is time we remembered something true.

You are allowed to be the main character of your own life.

As I just confirmed all our powerful keynote speakers for the upcoming International Women’s Day Lunch on 5th March 2027, I can’t help but reflect on the incredible journey that led me to organise these empowering events since 2010!

Many years ago, as an immigrant I found myself longing for a space where I would feel held,
where women could come together,
not in competition, but in collaboration.
A space where support wasn’t just a concept,
but a tangible force that lifted each woman higher.

Why? Because I believe in the power of unity.
I believe that when we stand hand in hand,
supporting and uplifting one another,
there’s nothing we can’t achieve.

These events are my way of creating a haven for every woman who seeks inspiration, connection, and the strength to navigate life’s challenges.

It’s about fostering a community where success isn’t measured by power over others but by the collective growth we achieve together.

In a world that sometimes tells us to compete,
I choose collaboration.
I choose to hold hands,
share stories,
and build each other up.

Because true empowerment isn’t about standing alone at the top; it’s about creating an even playing field where every woman has the opportunity to thrive.

So, as we plan my next empowering celebration, let’s remember the strength we find in supporting one another.

Save our very few super early birds tickets left for 5th March 2027.

A day to celebrate the resilience, success, and sisterhood that binds us together.

Manual Isn't a Badge of Honour!

I used to run my whole business by hand, invoicing, bookings, follow ups, all of it manual, all of it mine to remember. This is what changed, and what it cost me before it did. Free for 30 days, nothing to lose in having a look. Link in bio.

“Don't get caught up in society's definition of success. Define it for yourself and go after it with everything you've got! The sky's the limit!”