The Be Worthy Studio - Grief & Loss

You see their name pop up in your photo memories or scroll past an old message, for half a second, before you reality kicks in, your chest goes tight, even though it's been years.
Nobody warns you that grief doesn't fade in a straight line, or stay contained to the big, obvious moments. It lives in your body, and your body reacts to reminders long after your conscious mind thinks it's "dealt with" something.
That tightness isn't a setback. It's not proof you haven't healed. It's just your body, still loving someone, still responding to the fact that they mattered enormously to you.
If this is something you carry often, my Anchor Within membership was built exactly for this, a space to actually work through moments like this, instead of just getting through them alone. Link below and in bio

What does grief coaching actually give you?

Not answers. Not a fixed timeline and it definitely doesn’t do any fixing, you do NOT need to be fixed. What it gives you is space, to stop holding every emotion in, to stop carrying guilt and shame about where your life is right now, and start understanding what's actually happening inside you.

When you understand your grief, you stop fighting it. And when you stop fighting it, you have energy again, for your family, your friends, your own life.

One of my past clients said “it feels like the fog has gone and I can see again” and another said she “felt lighter and could actually breath”.

Grief coaching is helping you see a way forward whilst also tending to your grief, giving it space to breath and learning to walk alongside it ❤️

We’ve had a lovely bank holiday weekend. Kids in and out of the house, my son’s friends, my friends too. We picked damsons in the garden, built a den at the front of the house, had 2 movie nights with chocolate fountains, my son played golf, I got out & saw friends. It was full. It was genuinely lovely.

This evening, kids watching a film, I caught myself thinking how lonely I’ve felt this weekend. Then I actually looked back at the weekend we’d just had, and it had been full and busy with people. And the loneliness was still there underneath all of it.

I’ve spent most of the last twelve years living alone. And I’m aware that feeling lonely in a room full of people, in grief, is really normal, I talk about that a lot. But this has quietly been there for me too, just from living alone, separate from the grief itself.

Since lockdown life has been very busy and the last 2 years have come with particular challenges and their own trauma and loss.
It’s has only really been these last six weeks over the summer, I have intentionally made space to heal and put more quiet and stillness in, that things like this have started surfacing. I’m choosing to take that as a blessing, learning more about what I need, what I actually want, even though it still feels rubbish sitting in it.

This particular loneliness is different to the loneliness of missing my husband. I think there’s a mix of both running underneath everything, a loneliness that belongs to grief, and a loneliness that belongs to life, carried side by side.

I’m not chasing a relationship to fix this. I don’t want someone else’s presence to be the only thing standing between me and this feeling. There’s something in me that needs attention here.

Triggers are messages. They tell us something needs to shift, or something needs adding in. So this week, I’m going to journal on it, sit in the stillness with it, and let myself actually feel it rather than rushing to fix it.

A weekend full, and still, underneath it all, lonely. I’m going to practice what I teach, and allow that to be exactly what it is.

If you're depressed, unhappy, don't recognise yourself anymore. If you're holding every emotion in, exhausted, carrying guilt or shame about where your life is right now, feeling desperate, that is not a place anyone is meant to stay living.

Grief coaching, grief therapy, real support, it's not about pretending everything's fine. It's about helping you move out of that place, into a life that actually has purpose and meaning again. One where you're present enough to enjoy it.

Grief and trauma puts a huge amount of stress on the body, even when nothing else is going on. It's exhausting work, holding all of that, your nervous system is doing so much more than people realise.

Because of that, I want to make things easier for my body and so over the last few years I've been trying to bring more chemical-free, low-toxic products into the house, and slowly work on eliminating plastic where I can. It's genuinely hard on a normal family budget, and even harder with a child going through water bottles at lightning speed and losing half of them. I'm not doing this perfectly, and I'm not trying to.

I'd love to know, what chemical-free, plastic-free products have you found that actually work, and don't break the bank? Genuinely looking for recommendations.

I grew up in a generation where emotions weren't really talked about. You got on with it. You didn't make a fuss.

So when grief and life properly knocked me sideways as an adult, I didn't have the tools, because nobody had ever taught me them.

Everything I do now came out of having to build those tools myself, later in life, from scratch. The nervous system work. The journaling that actually changes how you think, not just how you feel. The creative practices that let something out when words won't come. The coaching that helps you catch the old beliefs before they run the show.

If you also grew up without a map for any of this, you're not behind. You just weren't given the tools yet. That's what I help people build now 🪴

There is a few new people on this page so I wanted to introduce myself again.

I am Becca, mum to my son Oliver and 2 dogs, Grief Coach and Educator, a Mindfulness Practitioner, Life Coach, art lover, psychotherapy student, have a degree in shoe design and shoe making (random I know!) I love a thunder storm, a card game, my log burner and a good walk.

Also, I help people who feel like they've disappeared into their own grief, exhausted, disconnected, and not sure who they are anymore, find their way back to themselves.

Because when you heal, honouring the person you lost gets easier, not harder. You get to be fully present for the precious, ordinary moments with your children, your family, your friends, those moments you don't get back. You get to breathe without it hurting. You get your energy back, your mind clear again, instead of the fog that's been sitting over everything.

You get to feel lighter. To laugh without guilt. To actually do the things you always dreamt of doing with your life, not instead of your grief, but alongside it. You get to trust yourself to make decisions and move forward again, instead of staying frozen.

And you get to be the example, showing the people around you what it actually looks like to carry grief and still live fully, rather than choosing one over the other.

Through 1:1 coaching, workshops, a low-cost community membership, and workplace support, I help you get there, so you're not just surviving your life, you're actually living it again. 🌿

Please reach out if you have any questions or want any support.

Grief was never meant to be carried alone.

Yet so many of us try to. We push through, hold it together, tell ourselves we should be managing fine by now.
Support isn't a sign you're failing to cope. It's what actually helps you move from feeling desperate, exhausted, and disconnected, to feeling present again, like yourself again.

That's the whole point of grief support: not fixing you, just walking alongside you while you find your way back.

You're keeping up appearances. Getting through the day. Doing what needs to be done.

But inside? Exhausted. Holding it all in. Maybe even feeling guilty, or ashamed, about where your life has ended up, like you should be further along than you are.

That's not failure. That's what unsupported grief does.

Anchor Within is for exactly this, the moment you realise you need something consistent, something low-cost, something in the background of your life reminding you that you're allowed to feel calm and even joy again.

£11.99/month. Be Worthy. Take action. 🌿

Link:

https://payhip.com/b/nlKrf

We grieve together. We grow together. We are worthy, together.

That's not just a nice line. It's the whole reason this business exists.

In 2014, I became a widow just 2 weeks after I had turned 32 and with a new baby. There was hardly any grief support around at the time, and I have never felt more lost in my life.

I remember my younger brother flying over from abroad, sitting on the end of my bed while I breastfed my son, telling me he was there for me. He did everything right. I was one of the lucky ones.

And I still felt completely alone.

That's the thing nobody tells you about grief, it can put you in a room full of people who love you, and you can still feel like you're the only person on earth carrying what you're carrying. Alone in a crowd. Alone with your best friends. Alone inside your own family.

We were never meant to grieve alone. So we have to build something new, not instead of our biological family, but alongside it. A new kind of family, made up of whoever actually gets it. Sometimes that's other bereaved people. Sometimes it's just one person who happens to understand you, by accident, by luck. It was never a numbers game. It just takes one.

That's the grieving together part.

Then there's the growing. Because grief doesn't just ask us to survive it, it asks us to understand it, to get to know ourselves again, to reconnect with who we are underneath it.
We have to learn how to live alongside our grief, not despite it. To carry the people we've lost with us, rather than leaving them behind.

And underneath all of that is the last piece: being worthy. Worthy in our own eyes, exactly as we are, carrying exactly what we carry.

Because we carry our grief, and we carry our people, forever. And if we can't find our own worth inside that, the whole journey gets so much harder.

We grieve together. We grow together. We are worthy, together.

That's what The Be Worthy Studio is built on. 🌿