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20/06/2026
You don’t need to have it all figured out to move forward.
Some days, showing up looks powerful.
Other days, it looks like doing the bare minimum and trying again tomorrow.
Both count.
I thought if I could look like my old self again, maybe I would feel like her again.
As a solo mother, I spent most of my pregnancy worrying about the life I would be able to give my son.
Would I be strong enough?
Stable enough?
Successful enough?
And somewhere in that fear, I became obsessed with bouncing back.
Not just physically.
I wanted to bounce back into the woman I was before.
The sharp one.
The driven one.
The ambitious one.
The one who was always on the go.
So after giving birth, my body became the project.
I thought if I could recognize myself in the mirror, maybe I could operate like her again.
And by 3 months postpartum, I was almost there.
Almost back in my pre-pregnancy clothes.
From the outside, maybe it looked like I had bounced back.
But inside, I felt nothing like the woman I was trying so hard to return to.
That was the part I was not prepared for.
I looked more like my old self, but I did not feel like her.
My identity felt fractured.
My capacity felt low.
And because I couldn’t operate like before, I started feeling like I was failing.
Failing myself.
Failing my son.
Failing the future I wanted to build for us.
Now, 18 months in, I can see it differently.
I don’t think I needed to bounce back.
I think I needed time, softness, support, and permission to become someone new.
Maybe the goal was never to return to her.
Maybe the goal was to slowly meet the woman motherhood had turned me into.
What part of losing yourself in motherhood were you not prepared for?
Day 10/40
The real enemies are always the obvious ones. Day 6/40
The enemies aren’t always the obvious ones.
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