08/25/2026
I want to be honest about what actually held me back. Because it wasn't just one thing. 🤍
1️⃣ I believed I would still find a partner.
I kept telling myself he was coming. As long as I believed that, choosing this path felt like giving up too soon. So I waited.
2️⃣ I wanted my child to have a father.
I grew up with a father who meant everything to me. The thought of my child not having that was one of the hardest things to sit with.
3️⃣ I wasn't sure I would be enough.
Could I really be everything she needed — mom, provider, protector, comforter — all on my own?
4️⃣ I worried about her development.
Would she struggle without a two-parent home? Would she feel different? I spent a lot of time researching before I felt at peace with this decision.
5️⃣ I thought I was being selfish.
I worried I was choosing my dream over what was best for my child. It took time to work through that guilt.
6️⃣ I wasn't sure I could provide the life she deserved.
Fertility treatments, donor s***m, and raising a child alone are real financial commitments. I had to get honest about what I could handle.
7️⃣ I was scared of doing it all alone.
The 3am wake-ups, sick days, big decisions, and loneliness. That fear was very real.
Every one of these fears was valid.
Then I asked myself:
If I let all these fears win, will I ever forgive myself for not trying?
The answer was no.
So I chose my dream anyway. 🤍
And she is here.
If any of these fears are holding you back, save this. Feeling this way is normal. It doesn't mean you can't do it. It means you care deeply about getting it right.
Drop a 🤍 if this is where you are right now.
***mdonor