NICO Coach & Music Man

Here's my latest recording written about a woman I loved… inspired by Esther Perel and her research on relationships where she shared that in almost every relationship, one person is afraid to lose themselves and the other is afraid to lose the other person.

The opening line “if stress is a killer” was inspired by Gabor Maté where he explains that stress literally causes damage to your cells and is directly linked to many different kinds of chronic illness including cancer.

This song flowed out of me as I wrestled to know if my current relationship was healthy... whether it would work for us both to be free to be ourselves while we fought to love each other... ideally with our whole hearts.

There was a time in our relationship where I was told that she felt "watered down"... this burned me. I don't believe it was meant to be hurtful but the fact that me being me wasn't allowing her to be her was confusing, frustrating, and disheartening. We both fought to try and allow each other to be free and the reality is that there were many times when I truly did feel very supported.

Aggghhhhh... relationships can be tricky eh? And I have heard many couples share a similar story. I think that one of the most important keys is to constantly be open, honest & vulnerable... with yourself and each other. And although this particular relationship didn't end up in a happily ever after fairy tale, I thought it may be important for people to hear (and my current partner actually really encouraged me to record it).

FUN FACT: "RIVER" was written on a picnic table at Schoolhouse Beach on the California coastline during my road trip in 2024 as I took a Leadership course down there.

Massive thanks to Shona Lynne & David W. Swanson for their contributions on this along with Daniel Nevins for the artwork

LISTEN HERE:

New tune release "RIVER" | Nico Boesten, CPCC | Coach Life Coach Kelowna

This is part 6/6 of a series I produced called "UNstuck | finding hope in loss" where I interviewed my buddy and multi-platinum singer-songwriter Andrew Allen. He is an artist and keynote speaker (among many other things) and he shares about how he has found hope through loss and what he would say or sing to someone who was struggling.

https://youtu.be/Q5wc4mH39v8

Watch the full interview here:
https://nicocoaching.com/unstuck-finding-hope-in-loss-with-andrew-allen-pt-6-6/

A clip from my interview with Andrew Allen on how to work through hard situations This is part 6/6 of a series I produced called "UNstuck | finding hope in loss". I interviewed my buddy and multi-platinum singer-songwriter Andrew Allen, an...

This is a little clip from my 6 part series "UNstuck | finding hope in loss" where Tess McMechan (a Somatic Trauma Practitioner) shares about how she helps people suffering from cancer and chronic disease.

https://youtu.be/mZbWMMFwpTk

Thanks to TELUS STORYHIVE for supporting this project.

UNstuck - how to heal from chronic disease from a trauma practitioner This is a little clip from my 6 part series "UNstuck | finding hope in loss" where Tess McMechan (a Somatic Trauma Practitioner) shares abo...

This little clip from my TELUS series UNstuck | finding hope in loss with my buddy Mike Shaw is an inspiring story of how this legend went from olympic ski coach to being paralyzed. He talks about his "healing hacks" and what allowed him to defy science and doctors telling him he would never walk again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MVIdAZQ4f6Q

Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/zwUaOffsXNc

UNstuck from olympic coach to paralyzed with Mike Shaw This little clip from my TELUS series UNstuck | finding hope in loss with my buddy Mike Shaw is an inspiring story of how this legend went from olympic ski c...

I wanted to share a little lyric video of my latest single "WORTHY" with you. May you know your worthiness a little more today my friends...

NICO - "Worthy" "WORTHY" by NICOInspired by a conversation with my partner, I wrote this for her and from her perspective as a bit of a prayer. This theme of “knowing your w...

Ahem, I bequeath you with my new single "WORTHY" today for your audible enjoyment. Inspired by a conversation with my partner, I wrote this for her and from her perspective as a bit of a prayer. This theme of "knowing your worth" seems to be a common human battle... may you know you are worthy.

And Happy Valentines Day ya beauties.

Worthy, by NICO track by NICO