I’m Dean Rasmussen, a queer trans life & business coach. It’s time to build a life that feels like yours!
After navigating my own journey of identity, change, and becoming, I help others create lives that feel aligned with who they truly are.
07/22/2026
Two Years Ago, We Started Over
Two years after moving to a new city, I reflect on what leaving behind the familiar taught me about fear, grief, and trusting big decisions. If you’re facing a major life change, this story is an invitation to choose the life you’re trying to build—even before you feel certain....
http://rasmussencoachingandconsulting.com/2026/07/22/two-years-ago-we-started-over/
07/22/2026
What Does a 10 Look Like? Why Your Best Life Doesn’t Have to Look Like Anyone Else’s.
Discover what truly makes a 10 in your life! Often, we're conditioned to chase societal milestones, but your 10 is unique to you. Imagine waking up excited, having meaningful friendships, and feeling comfortable in your skin. These are the moments that matter most, and they define a fulfilling life. Stop comparing yourself to others and start defining your own success. Your 10 is personal, and it's up to you to make it a reality....
http://rasmussencoachingandconsulting.com/2026/07/12/what-does-a-10-look-like-why-your-best-life-doesnt-have-to-look-like-anyone-elses/
03/24/2026
Eight years ago I wrote a post about coming out. I ended it by saying I was finally living, loving and being true to myself.
And I was. But I was also still figuring out what that even meant.
I’ve written a follow-up. And this one covers everything I wish someone had told me back then. Truths about the complexity of sexuality, about the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, about demisexuality and why finding that word quietly changed things for me. And about the mental patterns that kept me performing a life that didn’t fit, even after I thought I’d done the hard work.
This one’s personal. It’s also for anyone who has ever felt like they were broken because attraction didn’t work for them the way it seemed to work for everyone else. Or like coming out was supposed to fix everything and somehow it didn’t.
You’re not broken. You might just not have the right words yet.
What I Know Now That I Wish I’d Known Then: The Coming Out Edition Eight years ago I wrote about coming out. Today I’m writing about everything I wish I’d known then. The complexity of sexuality and attraction. The difference between sexual and romantic attraction…
You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to explain your exhaustion. If you’re tired of doing life alone, support exists. And you’re allowed to want it. Visit my website or DM me for more info. ***rcoach
Hire a life coach? In this economy? I get it, it sounds like a luxury. But here’s the thing: when everything feels uncertain, that’s exactly when clarity becomes most valuable. A good coach doesn’t just give pep talks; they help you identify what actually matters to you, cut through the noise, and make decisions that align with your real priorities. Sometimes the best investment isn’t another course or credential, it’s understanding yourself well enough to use what you already have. So, if you’ve been spinning your wheels in the same spot for months, it might be worth a conversation. DM me and we can set up a consultation.
01/30/2026
Steph and I don’t share a lot of each other on social media but today feels like a really important day to acknowledge how lucky we are to have her in our lives. Today marks 9 years clean and sober for Steph. Who knew that 9 years ago when she made the decision to love herself it would mean that my kids and I would get the honor of loving her and being loved by her. I never knew what being loved by a partner actually meant until I met her. She’s the roughest toughest badass you’ll ever meet and yet the kindest human to this tender hearted sensitive guy. I love you Steph and I’m so incredibly proud of you ❤️ ***rlove
