Helena Zebian

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You don’t understand it because YOU wouldn’t treat someone that way.

And I don’t know who needs to hear this today…

But maybe you can stop trying to understand them now.

And just be super proud that you’re not like them 😘

I see it in the women I see every day..

I think a lot of us became “independent” without ever really choosing to be. We learned pretty early that it was easier to sort things out ourselves. Don’t ask for too much. Don’t be a pain. Sit there and be quiet… sound familiar?

Then we grew up and everyone seems to think we are amazingly strong, capable women who have their s**t together 😂

And maybe you do. I am not here to tell you who you are (or aren’t for that matter).

But you also might be the woman saying “no it’s ok, I’ll just do it” even when someone offers to help. The one who feels guilty asking for anything. The one who finds it much easier to take care of everyone else than let someone (anyone) take care of her.
And after doing that for years, it becomes so normal that you don’t even see it as a pattern anymore. It’s just “who you are.”

Except sometimes your body is so exhausted of being the one who has to handle and hold everything.

Maybe being independent isn’t the problem.
Maybe believing you HAVE to be is.

This is why I love the work I do with my clients so much.

Because sometimes you don’t need to become stronger. You need to finally feel safe enough to put some of it down and let someone hold YOU for once.

If this hit home, comment REST below and I’ll send you a few nervous system tips to help you start doing exactly that.

Helena xo

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The big hugs after.
The tears that fall because they finally it all go.
The deep breaths.
The woman who falls asleep because, for once, she felt safe to surrender.

And sometimes… it’s about the silence.

After almost 18 years of doing this work, these are the moments that mean the most to me.

Because so many women spend their whole lives being the strong ones.

Holding everything together.
Looking after everyone else.
Pushing through. Staying busy.
Keeping it all in.

So when someone feels safe enough here to cry, sleep, hug me or simply just BE for a minute…

That’s the part you don’t get to see.
And honestly, it might just be my favourite part about what I do.

Helena xo

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Firstly let me say that I’m not entirely convinced these are normal at all!

Waking up between 1-3am
Sleeping… but never feeling properly rested when waking up.
Checking your phone “quickly” then ending up in the doom scroll for hours
Blaming caffeine, screens, stress or perimenopause
Googling “why am I waking up at 3am”

Basically blaming everything except asking the one question most of us never think to ask:

What was going on in my body BEFORE this became a pattern?

We get so used to just pushing through life that we stop getting curious about what could really be going on.

Because sometimes the symptom isn’t the end.

Sometimes it’s the breadcrumb to what’s really going on under it all.

Comment the word SAFE below and I will send you my nervous system scan so you can see exactly what patterns are holding you back and where.

Helena xo

Firstly we never even consider that our poor bodies might be just trying to communicate with us do we?

Many women waking between these times often think it’s the dreaded peri-menopause rearing its ugly head. I used to think it too until I took a step back and looked at everything I had on my plate and the emotions behind it all… frustration, anger, resentment… guilt - which all live in the liver and gallbladder. It was having such an impact on my subconscious and I didn’t even realize it. I was powering through daily life trying to do it all… on autopilot, not really even thinking consciously… just doing and it was showing up as disrupted sleep.

So instead of automatically letting your mind drift to hormones.. maybe it’s because you need to look a little deeper at what’s been going on in your life, at home, at work or in your business and being honest about it all.

Now I sleep through the night with no 1-3am wake ups (unless my dog or a thunderstorm wakes me up).

Helena xo

Doing all the right things for your skin… but still feeling like your face is still carrying the weight of everything?

Sometimes it’s not just about the skin. The face + body can carry the imprint of stress, emotion, and what the nervous system has been gripping onto for decades.

The OxyGeneo Somatic Facial + Massage blends advanced skincare with somatic massage to help you let go, unwind and feel cared for on a deeper level.

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Comment SOMATIC below for more info.