Subtle Balance

Tiny reminder for today. 🩷

Not everything is as perfect as it may look from the outside. We all have messy parts, difficult days, insecurities, struggles and things we’re still figuring out.

So be gentle with yourself and with others too. You never really know what’s happening behind the scenes. 🌸

Have a nice weekend! 😉
Selina

📸 unknown

Some seasons don’t make you shine brighter.

They simply teach you that the dark was never powerful enough to take your light. 🩷

And maybe that’s enough for this Sunday.

What’s something you’ve made it through that you once thought would break you?

Lots of love 💕
Selina

Missing someone isn’t always a sign you should go back…

Sometimes you miss the good moments.
The familiarity.
The version of them you kept hoping they would become. Or simply having someone there. 😢

And none of that erases what you know now.

You can miss someone deeply and still choose not to reopen a door that cost you your peace. 🩷

Both things can be true.

Have you ever missed someone you knew you shouldn’t go back to? Leave a 💔 if you’ve been there too.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

My go-to before starting my sessions. 🤍

A few minutes to slow down, breathe and arrive before holding space for someone else.

I recently became a Moonbird ambassador, which honestly feels like such a natural fit because it’s something I genuinely use myself.

If you’ve been curious about Moonbird or want to know how I use it, feel free to send me a message. I can also share my discount code with you — both for your own Moonbird and for their programs.

And if you just want to try it first: you can currently try one of the programs completely free for a month. 🩷

Lots of love 💕
Selina

Apparently, ChatGPT and I have spent enough time together for it to have some thoughts about humans. 😂

And honestly… it’s not wrong.

We can have all the insight in the world and still repeat a pattern. We can know exactly what we should do and somehow find ourselves doing the opposite. We can heal, grow, set boundaries… and still get triggered sometimes.

Very inconvenient.
Very human. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also, in a slightly surreal turn of events: I recently had a new client find me through ChatGPT. She was looking for a narcissism recovery coach and someone organising support groups for victims of narcissistic abuse and apparently, ChatGPT sent her my way.

So yes… AI might be becoming the new search engine whether we’re ready to admit how much we use it or not. 😂

But genuinely, I felt incredibly flattered that my work is being found that way too. 🩷

Lots of love 💕
Selina

Things I don’t care about anymore. Or maybe more accurately: things I’m learning to care a whole lot less about… 🫣

Because “I don’t care” doesn’t mean I never feel it.
I do. I’m still sensitive. Things still get to me sometimes.

I just don’t want them deciding how I live, what I share, how I mother, who I am, or how much space I allow myself to take up anymore. 🩷

And I have a feeling this list will keep growing. 🫣

What’s something you don’t care about anymore?

Lots of love 💕
Selina

Inspiration: Cassie Selfe

I almost scrolled past the football celebrations yesterday without saying anything. 🫣

But I work with women who dread nights like these. Not because they care about the score, because someone in their house does.

The numbers are in the carousel, and they’re not new.

Researchers have known this for over a decade and confirmed it again as recently as 2021: around big tournaments, abuse reports rise. Win or lose.

What struck me most when I first read that research wasn’t the 38%. It was the win number. Even good news wasn’t safe news! 😢

That told me everything about what’s actually going on in those homes.

It was never about football.
It was never about the dinner, the tone, the timing either. Those are just the excuses.
The control was already there.

So if you recognized something while swiping, in your own home, or in the way a friend goes quiet during game weeks, please don’t talk yourself out of it. You noticed it for a reason.

And if this could be someone you know: send it to her. She might not be able to save it herself. 🩷

📞 In Belgium: call 1712, free, confidential support for anyone affected by violence or abuse (weekdays).

Elsewhere: please look up your local domestic abuse helpline.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

Source: Kirby, Francis & O’Flaherty (2014), Journal of Research in Crime and Delinquency (the 38% / 26% figures). Alcohol figure: Trendl, Stewart & Mullett (2021), Warwick Business School, in Social Science & Medicine. US comparison: Card & Dahl, on unexpected losses and intimate partner violence.

For the longest time, I didn’t know what to do with peace. 🫣

When things finally went quiet, I kept waiting for the catch.
The next argument, the next problem, the next thing to brace for.

Calm didn’t feel like relief, it felt like something was about to go wrong. 😑

It took me a while to understand that wasn’t a flaw in me. It was just how long I’d lived on high alert. My body hadn’t caught up yet to the fact that I was safe now.

If you’re in that strange in-between where rest feels uncomfortable: you’re not broken. You’re healing! 🩷

Save this for the days the quiet feels strange.

Lots of love 💕
Selina

I’ve seen it too many times…

A child, standing in the middle, trying to figure out who to protect. Who to comfort. Who to choose. 😢

They shouldn’t have to carry that. 💔

Kids aren’t built to hold two parents’ pain at once.
They’re not messengers. They’re not therapists.
They’re not the glue.

They’re just kids.

If you’re co-parenting through conflict, this is your reminder. Your child’s loyalty isn’t a prize to win. Their peace is. 🩷

Save this for the next time you need it. Share it with someone who needs to hear it too.

Lots of love 💕
Selina