Wellness Valeria Counselling & Life Coaching

Wellness Valeria Counselling & Life Coaching

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Hi, I’m Val, a registered counsellor with the Australian Counselling Association.

I see clients in Petersham on Wednesdays and offer telehealth sessions during the week Australia-wide.

25/02/2026

25/02/2026

Not everything needs to be managed, fixed or figured out.

Some things shift when you stop forcing them to.

Less control. More trust.
Very different nervous system.

05/02/2026

I’ve been focusing on small habits lately.
I was a runner for many years and loved it - always felt amazing afterwards. I don’t really run now, but I do get out for a walk most mornings, and that simple routine really sets me up for the day.

In my practice, I often ask people what’s part of their day. Are they sleeping, eating, moving their body, or finding moments to rest?

I’d love to hear what you do most days for you. 🫶

I know this might feel uncomfortable to read. Disappointment has a way of touching old wounds. And for many of us, it becomes the moment we pull away.

We disconnect.
We shut down.
We stop replying.
We create distance with the people we care about most.

Because sometimes it feels safer to cut off than to feel the sting of “you let me down.”

I’m not asking you to lower your standards. I’m not asking you to accept less than what feels healthy. What I am inviting you to consider is discernment.

The ability to know the difference between:
the moments where your work is to stay in the conversation and expand your tolerance for disappointment
and the moments where a boundary, space, or even stepping away is what truly supports your wellbeing.

Both exist.
Both matter.

And there are so many times when the real work is learning to sit with disappointment long enough to see what’s actually possible.

That space asks for:
honest communication,
the willingness to hear and offer feedback,
and the capacity to stay present through hard moments.

These are relational muscles.
They build over time.
Not quickly.
Not perfectly.

It’s nuanced.
It’s uncomfortable.
And it’s often where the real healing begins.

What comes up for you when you sit with this?

11/12/2025

I know this might feel uncomfortable to read. Disappointment has a way of touching old wounds. And for many of us, it becomes the moment we pull away. We disconnect. We shut down. We stop replying. We create distance with the people we care about most. Because sometimes it feels safer to cut off than to feel the sting of “you let me down.” I’m not asking you to lower your standards. I’m not asking you to accept less than what feels healthy. What I am inviting you to consider is discernment. The ability to know the difference between: the moments where your work is to stay in the conversation and expand your tolerance for disappointment and the moments where a boundary, space, or even stepping away is what truly supports your wellbeing. Both exist. Both matter. And there are so many times when the real work is learning to sit with disappointment long enough to see what’s actually possible. That space asks for: honest communication, the willingness to hear and offer feedback, and the capacity to stay present through hard moments. These are relational muscles. They build over time. Not quickly. Not perfectly. It’s nuanced. It’s uncomfortable. And it’s often where the real healing begins. What comes up for you when you sit with this?

There’s a belief that an apology should bring relief. That it should offer closure or help you move on. But it doesn’t always work that way. Sometimes the apology comes too late, after the pain has already settled in. Sometimes it’s missing the very things that matter, ownership, real remorse, or any sign of change. And sometimes, even if it’s sincere, it lands in a nervous system that’s been holding it alone for far too long. The nervous system has already adapted in order to cope. When there’s no repair for a long time, the body often finds its own way to survive. It might push the pain down, shut off certain emotions, or stay on high alert. Those patterns can stick around, even after the apology comes. Not because someone is unwilling to heal, but because their system had to protect them, and now it doesn’t know how to let go. It just means the repair needs more than a few words. When the harm was deep, or left unacknowledged for too long, the apology, on its own, is rarely enough.

Part of what hurts is realising how long you had to hold it without them. #wellnessvaleria

19/07/2025

There’s a belief that an apology should bring relief. That it should offer closure or help you move on. But it doesn’t always work that way. Sometimes the apology comes too late, after the pain has already settled in. Sometimes it’s missing the very things that matter, ownership, real remorse, or any sign of change. And sometimes, even if it’s sincere, it lands in a nervous system that’s been holding it alone for far too long. The nervous system has already adapted in order to cope. When there’s no repair for a long time, the body often finds its own way to survive. It might push the pain down, shut off certain emotions, or stay on high alert. Those patterns can stick around, even after the apology comes. Not because someone is unwilling to heal, but because their system had to protect them, and now it doesn’t know how to let go. It just means the repair needs more than a few words. When the harm was deep, or left unacknowledged for too long, the apology, on its own, is rarely enough. Part of what hurts is realising how long you had to hold it without them. #wellnessvaleria

Okay, let’s start with this.
Very often, we do play a part in the dynamics we’re in.
We react, we protect, we cope.
So this isn’t about ignoring your contribution or avoiding reflection.

But I want to gently name something that happens far too often.
When the emphasis is always on you.
Your reactions. Your tone. Your mood.
When you're the one being examined, explained, picked apart.
And they remain untouched. Unquestioned. Unavailable for growth.

That’s what I’m speaking to here.
Because making you the problem serves something.
If you’re the problem, they don’t have to reflect.
If you’re the problem, they don’t have to change.
If you’re the problem, they don’t have to grow.
If you’re the problem, then they’re not.
You see how that works?

It hurts to be in that position.
Especially when you're self-aware. Especially when you're trying.

This shows up in all kinds of relationships.......yes, even at work. When you’re the one always being labelled, while others stay unexamined, the emotional burden gets placed on your shoulders.

So here’s what I encourage:

Notice your part. Own what’s yours.
And also, allow yourself to see what’s not.
Ask what blaming you helps them avoid.
And consider how you want to engage with someone who needs to hold you in that role.

You don’t need to rewrite the narrative for them.
You don’t need to convince anyone of your truth.
Their story about you doesn’t define you.
Stay grounded in what you know is real.

And I know it’s hard.
But this is where your clarity begins.
#counsellingthoughts #wellnessvaleria #mindfulrelationships

18/07/2025

Okay, let’s start with this. Very often, we do play a part in the dynamics we’re in. We react, we protect, we cope. So this isn’t about ignoring your contribution or avoiding reflection. But I want to gently name something that happens far too often. When the emphasis is always on you. Your reactions. Your tone. Your mood. When you're the one being examined, explained, picked apart. And they remain untouched. Unquestioned. Unavailable for growth. That’s what I’m speaking to here. Because making you the problem serves something. If you’re the problem, they don’t have to reflect. If you’re the problem, they don’t have to change. If you’re the problem, they don’t have to grow. If you’re the problem, then they’re not. You see how that works? It hurts to be in that position. Especially when you're self-aware. Especially when you're trying. This shows up in all kinds of relationships.......yes, even at work. When you’re the one always being labelled, while others stay unexamined, the emotional burden gets placed on your shoulders. So here’s what I encourage: Notice your part. Own what’s yours. And also, allow yourself to see what’s not. Ask what blaming you helps them avoid. And consider how you want to engage with someone who needs to hold you in that role. You don’t need to rewrite the narrative for them. You don’t need to convince anyone of your truth. Their story about you doesn’t define you. Stay grounded in what you know is real. And I know it’s hard. But this is where your clarity begins. #counsellingthoughts #wellnessvaleria #mindfulrelationships

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Shop 25/301 Stanmore Road, Petersham
Sydney, NSW
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Tuesday	9am - 5pm
Wednesday	8am - 6pm
Thursday	9am - 5pm