Jorja de maria

weekend away down south 🤌🏻🥟🌶️ perffectooo

You don’t need to wait until you feel motivated , you’ll be waiting a while 🫵🏻

You need to start proving to yourself that you can follow through

Because every small decision is reinforcing an identity

“I don’t have discipline”
or
“I do what I say I’m going to do”

“I always give up”
or
“I keep going even when it’s hard”

You don’t change who you are with one huge decision

You change through the choices you repeat - that’s where the real transformation happens

Your future self isn’t created by one huge decision

It’s built quietly, through the small choices you make every day😶‍🌫️

The meal you choose
The workout you show up for
The boundary you hold
The promise you keep

The way you speak to yourself when nobody else is listening🤝

None of these moments feel life changing on their own

But they’re teaching your brain who you ultimately are

You’re becoming her every time you choose in alignment with the person you say you want to be

Imagine little you is listening to everything you say about yourself

Would you tell her she’s lazy?
That she’s not good enough?
That she needs to earn food?
Would you tell her she’s fat?
That she’ll never change?
Or would you teach her that she can make mistakes, learn, try again & still be worthy?

WELL you are still that little person
& maybe it’s time you started talking to yourself like someone you’re actually trying to protect because at the end of the day, you are the one person you have to live with for your entire life

You deserve to feel safe with yourself
You deserve to trust yourself
You deserve to be on your own side

I’ve had so many conversations lately with women who know what they want, but keep waiting for the “right time” to actually go for it.

& I get it

But there will always be something going on

The goal isn’t to wait until life is perfectly calm ,it’s to learn how to look after yourself and keep moving forward within the life you actually have

You don’t need to do everything perfectly

You just need to stop putting your life on hold waiting for the perfect time‼️

Just start🤞🏾🤞🏾

Every time you follow through on something you told yourself you would do, you’re teaching your brain:

“I can trust myself.”☺️

Every time you speak to yourself with kindness instead of criticism:

“I am safe with myself.”☺️

Every time you make a choice that aligns with the person you’re becoming:

“This is who I am now.”☺️

You don’t change your identity through one huge decision

You change it through repetition🫲🏽

The little choices that seem insignificant are actually creating the evidence your brain uses to decide who you are

SO be intentional about what you’re teaching it

You are becoming through what you repeatedly do✔️