Balance UP with Lexie

Give me the strength😭

This didn’t just happen.

About a year ago, I recognised that I was a people pleaser.

And that’s when I started working on it very intentionally.

I’m not saying I’m 100% free from it.

I’m not.

That old programming is still there.

It still tries so hard to hold on.

It still comes through.

The difference is…

Now I see it.

Even when it’s happening, I know it’s not really me.

I know it’s the old programming trying to pull me back.

And that’s what feels so liberating.

Because once you see it…

You can’t pretend you don’t anymore.

The scariest part is that being a people pleaser isn’t really a choice.

It’s programming.

And so many people don’t even know they’re living in it.

They don’t know they’re people pleasers.

They just think, “This is who I am.”

They suffer quietly because they believe that’s just their personality.

But it’s not.

People-pleasing doesn’t just affect one part of your life.

It affects the way you speak.

The way you make decisions.

The way you set boundaries.

The way you show up in relationships.

The way you love yourself.

It’s like living in a prison without even knowing you’re in one.

And then…

You start breaking that programming.

You start seeing little glimpses of light.

I’m not finished.

I’m still on this journey.

But I see that light now.

And honestly…

That feeling is so liberating.

I can’t really explain it, but there’s something about turning 35 that feels different.

I’ve been working on this for the last year, but for some reason it feels like everything is finally coming together.

It feels like a page is turning.

Like this is the chapter where I stop apologising for who I am and finally start claiming my fu***ng power.

Not because I’ve finished healing.

But because I’m finally becoming me🤍

For the past 10 years, birthdays haven’t meant much to me.

But this year is different.

In a few days, I’ll be turning 35, and I’m genuinely excited to celebrate.

Not because of the number.

Because of the person I’ve become.

Over the next few days, I’ll be sharing some of the biggest lessons, breakthroughs, and transformations that brought me here.

This birthday feels like so much more than another year older.

It feels like the beginning of a whole new chapter.

I can’t wait to share why this birthday means so much to me. 🤍

One of the biggest dilemmas I have as a Reiki practitioner is this…

I see people on a soul level.

And from that perspective, every soul has value.

Every soul is learning.

Every soul carries its own story.

But then I look at the choices we make as human beings.

The harm we sometimes cause to each other, to animals, and to the world around us.

And I ask myself…

Where is the line between compassion and accountability?

I don’t believe we should judge one another.

But I also don’t believe that having compassion means excusing every choice.

Maybe true compassion is seeing someone’s humanity while still believing they are responsible for the choices they make.

I don’t have all the answers.

This is simply one of the questions I continue to sit with.

What do you think?

We often wait until the pain becomes unbearable before we slow down.

But your body has been speaking to you long before that.

Tight shoulders.
A stiff neck.
A sore back.
Constant fatigue.

Massage isn’t a luxury—it’s a way of caring for the body that carries you through every single day.

Maybe it’s time to listen to what your body has been trying to tell you. 🤍

What part of your body holds the most tension?

For me, joy has never been found in the things money can buy.

It’s the sun shining after a few days of rain.

The green grass beneath my feet.

The sound of birds singing in the distance.

The wind on my face.

A smile from a stranger.

An unexpected act of kindness.

Those moments when life asks nothing from you except to be present.

When you stop for a second, take a breath, and remember that you are here.

Alive.

Part of something bigger.

Those are the moments that bring joy to my soul. 🤍

What brings joy to yours?

Who is with me??☝🏼✌🏻