Melanie Raimundo

I truly believe that people do the best they can with the tools they have at their disposal and their ability to challenge and face their wounds.

Doing the work to notice, acknowledge, hold and move through our childhood wounds is more than hard, it can feel on the edge of impossible. I know that it takes a very strong, brave and vulnerable person to do the work and not everyone is ready to do it. It’s very hard to hold judgement towards someone for not doing something you are able to do but I invite you to hold compassion for yourself and the other side by side.

The most freeing place to be is when you realise that we are all flawed in our own ways, that they didn’t know any better AND you do know the effects of abusive behaviours and you can do better for your children.

What a way to honor your inner child!

Reparenting yourself WHILE holding your children. It’s A LOT! Please don’t feel you need to do this on your own.

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Definition:
Child abuse is any action towards a young person under 18 years of age that harms or puts at risk your physical, psychological or emotional health or development.
Child abuse can cover issues like physical abuse, emotional or psychological abuse, neglect and sexual abuse.
It includes: hitting, constant criticism, yelling, threats, teasing, ignoring (to name a few).
www.yla.org.au

Have you ever caught yourself talking about a painful memory from your childhood or maybe even a recent event and then said “but they had a bad childhood” or “but they had a cruel parent” as if that gives them permission to treat you badly?

I hear clients do this all the time and I say this to them, so I say it to you now.

One of the most important roles we play as therapists is being your mirror. It’s very hard to do that on your own.

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Happy Monday! Sometimes we just need to keep it light and connect with our inner child. H

You deserve love, respect and kindness. You can have all that and be at peace with your family situation. Will it continue to hurt? Likely. But it will no longer consume you. I know this to be true as I’ve not only helped people achieve it but I have too.

The work never ends but it gets easier to do.

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You don’t have to do this alone.

I did this today and it helped me so much. Have you tried this?

Due to demand, I’ve opened up Group Training to bring the Emergent’s and other Cycle Breakers together for Group Therapy. You don’t have to do this alone!

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I know when my clients are ready to slow down sessions or finish therapy (for this stage in their lives) when they learn to do this 4 step process on their own. When they come to a session and tell me how, when and why they did it that week. Because when they get there, they’re basically doing my job themselves.

Anyone else do this?

Don’t get me wrong there are many terrible humans in the world too, unfortunately that’s a side of humanity I know all too well with my line of work too and they often contribute to childhood abuse and subsequent trauma which can lead to more wounded and abusive adults. So the cycle continues.

Reposting this one for all you beautiful new people here. I want you to celebrate every time you catch yourself either heading to red (reacting) or even if you noticed it after. Noticing is the first step to change and it’s a massive step in the right direction especially if you’ve been avoiding it your whole life or never had jt modelled. Be kind to yourself.