Choose Healthy

That’s not because my life is bad…

It’s actually pretty good…

But ‘pretty good’ isn’t the same as curious, exciting, interesting & alive…

So, I’m paying more attention to the little things that make think, ‘I’d like to do that!’…

And then, when I can, I’m doing them…

That’s what the Golden Gap Year means to me…

Fee 💖 xx

For me, TEA - 🗺️ Travel, 🌟Experiences & 🧗‍♀️ Adventure - is about staying curious…

It’s a reason to step out of autopilot…

✔️ book the trip
✔️ try the cheese-making course
✔️ go to the opera
✔️ say yes to something I’ve never done before
✔️ have coffee with someone I’ve just met
✔️ take myself somewhere I’ve never been before

Sometimes the experience is amazing, sometimes it’s just OK & occasionally I think, ‘Well, I don’t need THAT again!’ 😂 …

But every experience tells me something…

✔️ what excites me
✔️ what challenges me
✔️ what energises me
✔️ what I’ve outgrown
✔️ what I want more of

And sometimes…

🙌 what I didn’t even know I wanted

That’s what I love about staying curious…

You’re not just adding more things to your life, you’re discovering more about yourself…

And maybe that’s why I’m passionate about Travel, Experiences & Adventure…

✖️ not as a bucket-list
✖️ not as things to tick off

But as a way of asking: ‘What else is possible?!’…

What’s your TEA fix at the moment?!

Fee 💖 xx

Which is both exciting & sometimes terrifying 😂 …

The Golden Gap Year certainly didn’t arrive as a perfectly formed business idea…

It’s evolved as I’ve evolved…

I’ve tried things, run workshops, talked to women, changed my messaging, created guides, built a membership, planned retreats, scrapped ideas, had new ones, changed direction AND I’m still figuring it out 💁‍♀️ …

But maybe that’s the point…

I’m not sure I want to wait until I know exactly what I’m doing before I start…

Sometimes you start, then you learn, then you adjust…

And that’s actually how I’m approaching this whole phase of life…

I’m curious about what I can create, what I might learn, who I might meet, what might surprise me, what might not work AND where it might take me…

Because reinvention doesn’t necessarily mean throwing everything away & becoming someone completely different…

Sometimes it’s simple asking: ‘What’s next for me?!’ & being willing to explore the answer…

SO, yes, I’m building a business in my 60s AND I’m still figuring out what’s possible 💁‍♀️ …

Fee 💖 xx

And somewhere amongst all of that, I’m still figuring things out…

What I want, what I don’t want, what’s next, what I’m curious about…

I think that’s one of the things I love about this next phase of life…

There isn’t necessarily a script anymore…

You get to experiment, try things, change your mind, start something, stop something, say yes, say no…

And see what happens…

That’s my kind of ‘golden gap year’…

A life that’s still being written…

What have you been up to lately?!

Fee 💖 xx

I don’t know what’s next 🤷‍♀️ …

There, I’ve said it…

I’m in my 60s, building a business, teaching, travelling, trying new things…

I’ve got ideas coming out of my ears…

And I still don’t have some beautifully mapped out plan for the next 10 years 🤷‍♀️ …

And actually, I’m OK with that…

Because I’m not sure I do want to know…

I like the curiosity of…

✨ What’s around the corner?
✨ What could I try?
✨ Who might I meet?
✨ Where might I go?
✨ What might I create?

Maybe ‘what’s next?!’ doesn’t have to be a question we answer once & for all 🤷‍♀️ …

Maybe it’s a question we keep asking 🤷‍♀️ …

What are you curious about right now?!

Fee 💖 xx

Last weekend, I went to the opera…

A few days later, I did a cheese-making course…

Neither was particularly life-changing, but that’s not really the point…

I’ve become increasingly interested in what happens when I say yes to something I haven’t done before…

Sometimes it’s brilliant, sometimes it’s just OK, sometimes it introduces you to something you want more of AND sometimes it confirms something you definitely don’t…

But every experience gives you information…

And I think that’s one of the best things about getting older…

You know yourself better, but you don’t stop discovering yourself…

SO, I’m making a point of keeping some curiosity in my life, trying new things, going places, meeting people, learning, saying yes…

Not because I have a bucket list to complete, but because I’m still curious about what’s possible…

And I’m wondering, what’s something you’ve said YES to lately that you wouldn’t normally have done?!

Fee 💖 xx

💁‍♀️: ‘What do you want this next phase to look like?!’

What surprised me wasn’t that they all had different answers…

It was how much they valued simply having the space to talk about it…

✖️ no PowerPoint
✖️ no 10-step plan
✖️ no telling them what they should do next

Just good questions, honest conversation & a group of women thinking out loud together…

And it’s got me thinking - maybe we don’t need more advice about what to do next…

Maybe we need more spaces to work it out together because sometimes when you have the space to pause, talk & listen to other women asking some of the same questions, possibilities start to open up…

And maybe that’s where the next chapter begins…

Fee 💖 xx

So she did!!!

And then she went back the next day…

And the next, and the next, and the next…

For 103 days straight, she walked the same rock & took a photo…

Same rock - 103 photos….

When she told me this story, she said it was like someone had flicked a switch…

That one small daily commitment started something she couldn’t have predicted…

She began making decisions for herself - on the moment, without overthinking, without waiting for the ‘right’ time…

And slowly, her world started to expand…

Fast forward to today - spontaneous trips, sky diving, zip lining, singing in a cafe, walking through a rain forest…

All from a walk to a rock…

It’s a reminder that sometimes we don’t need a huge life overhaul…

We just need one small promise to ourselves…

One step, one choice, one ‘why not’…

Your rock is waiting…

What’s yours?!

Fee 💖 xx

Not your partner, not your kids, not your boss, not even the version of yourself who’s spent the last 20 years doing what needed to be done…

But here’s what midlife does give you - a chance to stop waiting for it…

The kids may be more independent, the career chapter may be evolving, the people-pleasing is exhausting…

And somewhere underneath all those roles & responsibilities, there’s a version of you who’s been quietly waiting her turn…

That’s not a crisis, that’s a calling…

You don’t need permission, you don’t need a perfect plan - you just need to take the first step…

Your next chapter isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about finally making space for the woman you’ve always been…

What’s the one thing you’d do if you stopped waiting for the green light?!

Fee 💖 xx