Erica Webb SelfKind

The research says highly sensitive people are more likely to be perfectionists. Specifically, we’re more likely to experience what’s called ‘socially prescribed’ perfectionism - the kind of perfectionism that starts with an idea that you can and should be capable of a wildly high standard.

Every human will eventually fall short of these ideals precisely because we’re human. That typically doesn’t stop us from trying though … and from continuing to measure ourselves internally against an unattainable ideal.

Self-compassion says: it’s painful to acknowledge that I can’t reach or sustain the standard I think I have to in order to be good and accepted. I’m choosing to give myself grace and kindness in my human imperfection - NOT to compound this pain with heapings of self-criticism and shame.

A migraine on the weekend wiped me out. The messy house stayed messy. I feel no guilt.

Being a sensitive person can mean variable energy and, for many of us, dealing with chronic conditions, pain and wobbly health stuff. On top of that, it’s common to feel epic levels of guilt for not being able to stay on top of everything or to experience dips in capacity that don’t match the to do list.

But how’s the guilt and shame driven strategy working out?

It never worked for me. It just dug me deeper and deeper into a place of self-criticism and frustration.

Self-kindness, compassion and having an honest understanding of yourself? That’s how we move away from constant guilt to a place where self-care is your non-negotiable, not the dishes.

There’s still time to join me for SelfKind nurture - 12 weeks of support to nurture yourself and your sensitivity. Details via the link in my bio or send me a DM. We start Sunday 2nd August 2026 so don’t wait too long if you think this could be the right fit for you 🩷

This is the fear of so many sensitive folk, and it’s founded in real data (sadly). Most of us HAVE been told that we’re too sensitive, too much, too difficult. And so what have we done in response? Pretended to be comfortable, easy going and unbothered when we were absolutely none of those things.

But you know what? Your needs (sensory or otherwise) are not evidence of being too much or too difficult … and in ignoring or minimising them you might be missing an opportunity to feel more comfortable in your own skin.

That doesn’t mean you need new blue glasses (unless you do!) but it is an invitation to be honest about your needs and preferences because you’re allowed to look after yourself 🩷

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Want support understanding your sensitivity and how to meet yourself with the kindness and compassion you’ve been missing? SelfKind Nurture is the space to do just that. Join me for this small group program that starts 2nd August 2026. Capped at a MAX of 12 highly sensitive people, this is an opportunity to be seen, understood and supported as the magnificent, sensitive human you are 🌼

Applications open now - closing Tuesday 28th July. Link in bio or feel free to dm me for more details.

It won’t solve everything, but it’s certainly not nothing.

Softening what you can soften, reminding yourself that there’s solid ground beneath your feet, taking a deep breath … these simple acts can make a big difference to a sensitive nervous system.

These little moments are opportunities to remind your body and nervous system that you’re safe (or safe enough); something your nervous system is always looking for evidence of.

Which is trickiest for you?



We’ll be exploring all of this and more in SelfKind Nurture - my 12 week online small group program for Highly Sensitive People who are ready to nurture themselves and their sensitivity, rather than battling it.

Over 12 weeks you’ll learn:

🌱 To understand your sensitivity and what it truly needs
🌱 How to access a sense of safety even in the midst of challenging emotions or self-doubt
🌱How to foster a kind inner voice
🌱How to ease physical tension in a gentle, restful way
🌱 Strategies for identifying what really matters to you and how to align your actions with that
🌱 How to soften the inner critic and untangle yourself from guilt, shame and ‘shoulds’

Applications are open now and they close in one week on Tuesday 28th July. We get started on Sunday 2nd August.

Join me?
Link to more in my bio or DM me with questions 😊

Oh it’s so easy to feel broken as a sensitive human in this world. It’s so damn loud, bright, fast and cruel.

I hope these reminders land gently and inspire some self-kindness in your day.

If you’d like to explore fostering your inner kindness and nurturing your sensitivity - I’d love to have you inside SelfKind Nurture, my 12 week small group program for sensitive people.

You can read all about it via the link in my bio 🩷

She was such a sensitive little girl. Too sensitive, she was told.

She cried so much she was pulled out of kindergarten. She cried every day of school.

She was shy, clingy, quiet. Read for hours in the corner.

She grew up feeling faulty; broken. Like she never fit in anywhere.

Friends? She had them, but she rarely felt liked.

She was teased for her accent (this little girl moved from Canada to Australia at 6 years old) and was known to be an easy target for jokes because she was so gullible.

She grew into an adult who learned to (mostly) hide her tears, though her body took the brunt of that struggle. Headaches, IBS, muscle pain, autoimmune … that masking took a toll.

I look at her now and think: if only you knew.

If only you knew that your sensitivity has never been a flaw, it’s simply how you’re wired.

But, it has asked something of you that you never knew how to give: understanding, respect, kindness, compassion.

It would take her the better part of three decades to realise that, and she’s still putting those pieces together.

Gosh she was so innocent. To think anyone told her she was too much or not enough of something 😢 And yet, she’s not alone, not even close.

This little girl grew up to be me: a counsellor and somatic exercise coach who works with the sensitive people of the world to do what we were never taught or encouraged to do. What we never even knew we COULD do.

To meet ourselves and our sensitivity with respect, kindness, compassion and understanding. To build a life that caters to our sensitivity instead of constantly playing contortionist to fit ourselves to expectations that never fit.

Applications for SelfKind Nurture - a brand new 12 week small group program for highly sensitive folk - are open now.

This is where you can learn those skills - finally. Because you were always worthy of that and now it’s time to give yourself that gift.

DM me to find out more or head to 🔗 in bio.