Living Well with Fay

"I'm no longer hiding in the kitchen."

She used to set the air fryer for 12 minutes, and stay there the whole time!!

💥If there was a fight brewing between her two kids, she'd listen out but stay in the kitchen.
💥If tantrums were escalating, she'd quickly go settle it but then dash back to the kitchen.
💥If she risked being hit or assaulted by a potential meltdown, the kitchen was her escape room.

Because leaving meant panic. Hypervigilance. Braced for impact.

Her own home didn't feel safe.

We didn't work on her parenting.
We didn't work on her kids.
We worked on her nervous system.

Session by session, having her body trust, having her body feel safe, having her body let go.

👉Unhooking survival patterns that formed when she was young, being parentified, looking after her siblings, whilst also being academic at school.

👉Unhooking the need to be super busy, spinning 14 plates at the same time, the only time she felt safe, useful and "in control". But it no longer serves her energy levels decades on.

👉Relaxation wasn't in her vocabulary. Even her holidays had an intention and goal (I kid you not!)

And here's what she told me recently:
"𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒔𝒊𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒅𝒐 𝒎𝒚 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒇𝒇 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒔𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒐𝒍𝒅𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒅𝒓𝒂𝒘𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒚 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒅𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒌. 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆'𝒔 𝒃𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓. 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒂𝒔𝒌 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒐𝒌𝒂𝒚 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒓𝒖𝒑𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒆. 𝑾𝒆'𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑰'𝒎 𝒏𝒐 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒊𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒂𝒏𝒚𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆. 𝑰 𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒊𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒚 𝑳𝒆𝒈𝒐, 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒅𝒐𝒅𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒚 𝒌𝒊𝒅𝒔 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒊𝒕𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒏."

✨She didn't change her children.
✨She didn't change her circumstances.
✨She rewired how her body responds to them. And in turn, the kids respond differently to mum.

And in doing so, she got her family back. And they got their mum back.

That 12 minute air fryer reprieve?
She doesn't need it anymore.

If you're surviving your own home rather than living in it DM me "KITCHEN" and I'll send you a link to book a call with me.

In this episode of Realms of Power, Dr. Tony Rudd and I sit down to explore Clinical EFT, nervous system regulation, subconscious beliefs, and the emotional patterns that can keep us stuck.

In this snippet, I explain how EFT, also known as Tapping, combines acupressure points with elements of Western psychology to help people access emotions and beliefs stored beneath the surface.

Together with Tony, we explore addiction, anxiety, parental burnout, financial patterns, childhood experiences, and why lasting change often requires going deeper than positive thinking!

This episode is for anyone ready to understand their emotional patterns, regulate their nervous system, and take meaningful steps toward greater emotional freedom.

Link:
https://youtu.be/q48wy3AA7Lw?si=O-6Zhuekp7oo7zTs

Need a sign 🛑?! Here it is!!

You've been sitting on the fence long enough.

Your body knows.
It's trying to hit you on the head with a frying 🍳 pan!!

That nagging feeling that you're capable of more?
That there's another way.
You need to shift it?!

That's your nervous system SCREAMING AT YOU!!

The courses, the planners, the "I'll start on Monday" , it's not working.

Not because you're not trying.
But because the block isn't in your strategy.
It's in your body.
Still ruminating in your subconscious.

One session could unhook what you've been carrying for years.

Stop waiting to feel ready.
Let's get you unstuck.
DM me or Comment "SIGN" to book in my signature Clarity Breakthrough EFT Session.

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Besides hydration 💧, protein 🥚🐟, my go to sweetness in between sessions is fruit (sometimes medjool dates!)

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