Candi May

Same body. 🍑
10 years apart.
Completely different size & shape.
Completely different relationship with myself.

(There is no way 10 years ago that I’d even contemplate posting a photo of myself looking curvy and sensual AF for fear of others opinions… NOW… I don’t give AF 😬🤣)…

Why? Because I’ve spent way too much time worrying about people and opinions that bring no value or positivity to my world, just pain…. Now I know what it feels like to be free from those constraints.

And it’s crazy, I used to believe healing meant getting my body back.
Smaller.
Tighter.
More acceptable.

But what actually healed me…
was softening.

Letting my body change.
Letting myself age.
Letting life move through me.

I’m not happier now because I look a certain way.

I’m happier because I feel safe inside my body.❤️

Because I stopped punishing it.
And started nourishing it.

And here’s the truth no one told me and something I had truly learned to embody is:
When you choose love over control…
your energy becomes juicier.
Your magnetism returns.
Your life and heart opens.

I feel more alive now.
More sensual.
More me.

Not because I tried harder —
but because I finally let myself soften.

If your body is changing…
If you’re grieving an old version of yourself…

There is so much hope here 🤍

🎧 Full episode linked in bio
✨ Learning to love the skin I’m in — for real this time

That voice in your head?
The one that’s never satisfied.
The one that tells you you’re too much… or not enough… or wrong somehow.

That’s not truth.
That’s body dysmorphia.

And it doesn’t care how many compliments you get.
How “fit” you are.
How much approval the world reflects back.

Because when your worth is outsourced…
it will always keep moving the goalposts.

For years, I chased being desired.
Approved of.
Chosen.

But I never once stopped to ask:
Do I desire me?

This clip is a small window into a much bigger, more honest conversation about how body dysmorphia shaped my relationships, my self-worth, my relationship with food—and how I’m now actively healing and coming home to my body.

If this resonates…
If you know this voice…
If you’re tired of fighting your body instead of living inside it…

✨ Watch the full episode
✨ Like, share & subscribe
✨ And join me in this ongoing journey of healing, reconciliation, and radical self-love

And if you’re feeling the call to come home to yourself and truly reconcile the relationship you have with your body, food, and self — I have 2 spots opening for 1:1 coaching.
DM me for more information or simply to have a chat.

You are not broken.
You are not alone.
And you are worthy of loving the body you live your life through. 🤍

🎧 Full episode now live — link in bio

This is part 2 of Candi’s Story… Live and ready for you to dial in… Here goes… 😬🤍

F**k fitting in.

Seriously. F**k it.

If you feel like you need to shrink, sculpt, starve, smooth, inject, or contort yourself into something else just to be loved —
you’re not the problem.

You’re responding to a system that taught you belonging had conditions.

Body dysmorphia isn’t vanity.
It’s fear.
It’s survival.
It’s the nervous system trying to stay safe in a world that told us our bodies weren’t enough.

And I know so many women — and men — living their lives on pause because they don’t feel “right” yet.

Waiting to show up.
Waiting to be chosen.
Waiting to feel worthy.

Here’s the truth:
If you feel like you need to change your body for someone to love you —
you’re looking for love in the wrong places.

Your body is not the entry fee for belonging.

This life is happening now. We only get one crack at it… Choose how you be with yourself wisely and with compassion x

🎧 Episode 4 of Candi’d Convos x HER Story and Candi’s story #2 is now live — and this conversation matters.

If this landed, share it with someone who needs permission to stop fitting in and start living.

And if you feel seen, feel called to share or need support - I got you… I’m here. 🤍

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ui9CXVKKHB7eQgaojAJCA?si=vFD51GgeQHW6E7o0s0LMjQ&t=73&pi=1mXf4ENJR7KtU


**kFittingIn


NervousSystemHealing

In the midst of everything unraveling…
my mum didn’t try to fix me.
She didn’t rush my grief.
She didn’t make my heartbreak smaller.

She simply sat with me —
full of God’s Grace —
and witnessed me in the deepest ache I’d ever known.

And then she asked one quiet question…
the kind that doesn’t demand answers,
but gives permission.

Permission to fall apart.
Permission to choose again.
Permission to do whatever it takes to come home to myself. 🤍

This moment changed the course of my life.

And it’s the heart behind Episode 1 of Candi’d Convos —
where I share the story I’ve never spoken out loud… until now.

🎧 Episode 1 is live.
Come sit with me.

🖤 Reflection for you:
What question is your heart longing for someone to ask you right now?

Link in bio to listen.

This episode is the one I nearly ran from. 💛

Not because I didn’t have the words…
but because I knew this is where the next chapter of life truly begins…

In the freedom of no longer holding back and worrying about what other people think..

This is the first full episode of Candi’d Convos —
no polish, no permission, no pretending.
Just truth.
The messy kind.
The kind that ruins the life you’ve outgrown.

The kind of truth that makes you stop mid-life and whisper…

“What the actual f*ck was that?”

If you’ve ever laid in bed thinking “I can’t do this anymore”

and still got up anyway…
this one will see you.

🎧 Now live on Spotify, Apple and other streaming platforms.
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