07/28/2026
Why is it so hard for people to just be kind to horses?
Why is it so hard for people to just be kind to horses?
Why is it so much easier for people to revert to force and pressure when things don't go as planned?
Why is the first reflex most of the time to think "he is just testing me, trying to get out of work, checking boundaries"?
Why can't people just be nice to their horse? After all - they say they love their horse?
I guess it is because most people haven't experienced true kindness in their lifes yet. That makes it hard to trust kindness.
Kindness works. Kindness creates trust. Kindness lets the other being know "I see you, you matter, I care".
If you observe any living being, the first reaction to something new is being careful, skeptic.
This isn't unique to the horse.
And yet, people punish their horses for spooking, for being skeptical of new things, not wanting to pass scary places, even though they KNOW horses are flight animals and therefore programmed to be especially careful and skeptical to anything new or out of the norm!
Why oh why? Ego I guess.
Kindness though does not mean to abandon guidance and leadership.
Have you ever taken a worried, crying child by its hand to guide it when it was worried or scared?
You reassured the child, held its hand with calm firmness, trusting that everything will be ok.
I am certain you didn't blame the child for being scared or maybe even crying - right?
That energy helped the child feel safe and secure. This is kindness.
Lead your horse with that kindness. And you'll get softness back.