09/17/2026
Somewhere along the way, college recruiting started entering the conversation at 12U-14U
Sometimes I believe the parents have bigger dreams than the kids do.
At 11 or 12 or 13 years old, even maybe 14 a player shouldn’t feel like every team choice, tournament, workout or social-media post is part of a college recruiting résumé. At that age, shouldn’t we be talking more about learning the game, developing fundamentals, competing, making friends and discovering whether they truly love softball?
Instead, parents are often made to feel that if their daughter isn’t playing travel ball early, attending certain tournaments, getting lessons and starting the recruiting process, she’s already falling behind.
Rec ball is where young players can learn to throw, catch, hit, run the bases and understand the game.
It’s where they learn to be teammates. Where they learn how to win and lose. Where they learn responsibility, sportsmanship and how to take instruction.
Most importantly, it’s where a kid gets to figure out
If they love playing this game.
There will be plenty of time for showcases, recruiting, college camps and conversations about playing at the next level.
Let kids become softball players before we start asking them to become college prospects.