06/11/2026
People struggle to make room for all kinds of healthy things in relationships. The trick is to not let it convince us that we don't deserve it :)
Helping you reclaim your self-worth
set healthy boundaries & assert yourself
by reframing normal yet unhealthy family dynamics
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06/11/2026
People struggle to make room for all kinds of healthy things in relationships. The trick is to not let it convince us that we don't deserve it :)
Learning to set boundaries is like riding a bike 🚲
When did you fall off, and how did you handle it? (Speaking about boundaries here of course 😜)
People don’t have to agree with your feelings, they don’t have to fix your feelings, they don’t have to like your feelings, the good ones simply make room for them. 💗
Please sit down and think this through with me!
What do you think?
Recovering from people-pleasing doesn’t mean we have to jump to the big difficult conversations right away, it can look like something as simple as ordering in the restaurant!
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If so, let me know and I may turn it into a series!
What’s one thing you can dare yourself to do this week?
Love, Klara 💗
When someone reacts poorly, there are two important questions we can ask ourselves:
1. Was my delivery kind or did I attack them?
2. Was there delivery kind or did they attack me?
If you were on my page, you probably have the tendency to people, please which means that you’re probably overly worried about question number one.
When somebody relax poorly to something you bring up or boundary that you said, you’re more likely ruminate over everything you said and what you may have done wrong.
While it’s healthy to look at what owns reaction and words, it’s important to also look at how are communication communication partner is handling their part.
At the end of the day, all you can do is keep your side of the street clean, act, according to your values and the person you want to be, and if still, you’re getting poor reactions then that’s important information to have.
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05/23/2026
If you look closely, none of these:
- accuse (“you never…”)
- mind-read (“you don’t care…”)
- or demand
They invite. And that’s the whole point of sharing your needs; it's not a demand, it's a way to invite your partner to meet you.
If you didn't grow up in an environment where this language was modeled, it's important to learn how to communicate with your partner so it's safe for them to move toward you rather than defend themselves.
Who are you meant to be?
I recently thought about this, and if you struggle with setting boundaries this for you:
when we struggle to set boundaries healing often means becoming the person we needed in the past.
Someone who sees you, who hears you, and has your back.
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Does this make sense to you? Drop a ❤️ if it does.