Here’s what I’d go back and say to myself:
🤍 The dissociation that lifted did its job perfectly. It kept you alive in a body you couldn’t afford to be inside yet. The fact that you can feel it now — in a body that has grown, with resources that child didn’t have — is not a collapse. It’s timing.
🤍 Your memories do not have to be complete, linear, or verifiable to be real. Fragments are how trauma is actually stored. The body remembering before the mind does is not evidence against you. It’s how the system works.
🤍 The voice telling you “maybe I’m making this up” is not memory. It’s the shame that was installed alongside the abuse to keep you quiet — sometimes by someone who needed your silence, sometimes by a culture that couldn’t hold you. It has one job. You are allowed to stop handing it the microphone.
🤍 The little girl this happened to is not who you are now. You are the woman she has been waiting for her whole life. She does not need you to remember every detail. She needs you to believe her. That is the only thing she has ever needed.
🤍 This is not a breakdown. This is the door. You cannot heal what you couldn’t feel. The fact that you can feel it now — as horrifying as it is — is the beginning, not the end. You are not breaking. You are arriving.
I’m not saying this to be harsh. I’m saying it because I wish someone had told me sooner.
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Moving and being present in my body is always the greatest hack for me when it comes to getting out of overthinking.
Right before I recorded this I was sitting overthinking this page and the direction I want to take. I caught myself in this and decided to break the overthinking cycle!
I took my dog for a walk then I went to the gym. My mind cleared, I felt more at peace, and in the middle of my 30 minutes on the stair master a download came through about a series I am going to start here and I am so excited!
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