Lee Manian

After ten years of coaching people through relationship patterns, I’ve learned that most people don’t stay stuck because they don’t care or aren’t trying hard enough.

They stay stuck because some part of the pattern is still protecting them.

That was true for me.

My defensiveness protected me from shame.

Blaming my husband meant I didn’t have to face my own impact.

Staying attached to the identity of being misunderstood meant I didn’t have to become someone new.

And that was the hardest part to admit:

A pattern can be painful and still be giving you something.

Maybe it helps you avoid vulnerability, keeps you from feeling one-down, allows you to remain the victim, or protects you from responsibility, rejection, failure, or change.

That doesn’t make you broken.

It means the pattern developed for a reason.

But until you understand what it’s doing for you, you may keep trying to change the behavior without ever changing what’s creating it.

This is exactly the kind of work I help individuals and couples do inside my Relationship Design Deep Dive:

a private 90-minute session where we slow everything down, identify what’s really organizing the relationship beneath the surface, and get clear on what would need to shift.

DM me DEEP DIVE and I’ll send you the details.

I’m not saying your relationship needs another person…unless that’s your thing 😉. I’m saying it needs another perspective. Most couples only consider “what I want” and “what you want…” but the healthiest couples also ask, “What does the relationship we’re trying to create need from us right now?”

What’s your next step toward excellence in your love life? What are you letting of so you can create your dream love life? Comment below 👇🏽

Part 1: Why I bow my husband’s feet // Part 2: What makes me want to bow // Part 3: Does he bow at my feet? // Part 4: What a woman’s devotion does for a man // Part 5: What a woman’s devotion does for a woman // Stay tuned for the final part… 👀

Part 1: Why I bow my husband’s feet // Part 2: What makes me want to bow // Part 3: Does he bow at my feet? // Part 4: What a woman’s devotion does for a man // stay tuned for part 5: Women’s edition! 💥

Part 1: Why I bow my husband’s feet // Part 2: What makes me want to bow // Part 3: Does he bow at my feet? // Stay tuned for part 4! 👀

I honestly feel like the luckiest woman alive, every single day 💓🫠

No single thing causes me to open my heart wider and faster than bowing at my husband’s feet 💓 it’s a quiet little moment that I give to myself to acknowledge who he is to me, how deeply he serves me, and all the burdens he carries so I don’t have to. It’s a gesture of love, devotion, and respect that fills my heart with love and gratitude. 🙏🏽

Most of us ask the wrong questions when it comes to our relationships, which is why we stay stuck and struggle. Ask a better question, get a better answer! ❤️‍🔥

Fellas: if you want your lady to open her heart to you, offer her this one thing… 👂💓