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"I'm doing life wrong."

That's what went through my guest Lynn Mulligan's head, on a golf course, doing something she loves.

She wasn't unhappy.
Nothing had blown up.
Work was fine.
Life looked fine.
It just wasn't hitting on all cylinders.

Then Lynn listened to one episode of this podcast, and she knew she wanted to invest in her happiness.

She decided to take the leap and start coaching with me.
Work, life, all of it, started hitting different.

In the 5% Club we have a saying.
"We're grateful, and we want more."
Lynn is proof of exactly that.

Listen to the full conversation of this week's episode, out now on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner,
Shayla

Stop saying "I am angry."
Try this instead: I notice anger around me.

"I am angry" makes the emotion your identity.
You become the feeling.

"I notice anger around me" makes it weather.
It is around you. Not happening to you.

You get to decide whether you want to take it on or let it pass. Just like weather does.

That is where your power comes back.

One small language shift.
Massive difference in who is in charge.

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner, Shayla

Listen to The 5% Club on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

My grandpa used to say it like this.

"Any man can smile if life goes along like a song. But the man worthwhile is the man with a smile when everything goes dead wrong."

That's the 5% King Mindset.
Most people wait for a good day to feel good. Bad sleep, bad meeting, bad mood, and the whole day is wrecked.
We don't do that here.

You create your own energy. Your own mood. You manage your own thoughts.

Especially on the hard days. Those are the ones that count.

Full episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

Three villain stories.
Most of us are running all three without knowing it.

The active villain.
Someone did something. They took credit.
They said the wrong thing. Something real happened and now they're the problem.

The passive villain.
Someone didn't do something.
Didn't step up, didn't help, didn't notice. Their absence became your excuse for staying stuck.

The emotional villain.
Someone made you feel something. Mad. Disrespected. Left out.
And now they're proof they're the problem.

Three flavors, one outcome.

You hand your power to someone else and walk around carrying weight that was never yours to carry.

New episode of the 5% Club breaks all three down.

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner, Shayla

Listen to The 5% Club on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

I take feedback well.
I own my mistakes. I'm independent.
I don't need anyone to rescue me.

Five years ago, if you had asked me whether I had a victim mindset, I would have said absolutely not.

And I was still doing it.
Constantly.
Without even knowing it was happening.
That is the tricky part.

The women who need this the most are the ones who would never describe themselves this way.

High performers. Self-aware. Accountable.

And still quietly handing their power away every time they cast someone as the problem.

Anytime we are in victim mode, we are causing ourselves pain. Living at a lower, less happy level.

You deserve better than that.

New episode of the 5% Club is out now.

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner, Shayla

Listen to The 5% Club on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

Is there a villain in your story?
Someone who's wrong.
Someone who's mean.
Someone who's just not thinking.
If there is, you are in the victim seat.

And the victim seat is the most expensive place you can live.

Not because your feelings aren't real.
Not because the other person didn't do something worth noting.
But the second you hand someone a villain role, you hand them your power.

5% women don't live there.
We stay in choice. We stay in possibility.
We keep our energy pointed forward.

New episode of the 5% Club is out now.

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner, Shayla

Listen to The 5% Club on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

She'd walk in the door and whisper to herself:
"Please don't talk to me. Please don't talk to me. Please don't talk to me."

Her husband. Her kid. The people she loves most in the world.
And she had nothing left for them.

That's not a bad mom. That's a maxed out executive.

This is why I coach the whole person, not just the title. Your career and your life.
Both.

Full episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner, Shayla

One bad interview.
And some women are in a hole for weeks.
I get it. You put yourself out there.

It didn't go the way you wanted. It stings.

But here's what I know about the women who get results fastest.
They're not the ones who interview perfectly.
They're the ones who fail and go right back out.

We evaluate what worked, what didn't, what to do differently.

Then we go again. Immediately.
That's how you build the stamina that gets you the role.

Full episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/executive-coaching-for-corporate-leaders-the-5-club/id1792659587

Sometimes it’s the small moments where we give ourselves unnecessary pressure.

Check out this story from Krista.

We hold ourselves to a standard no one asked for.
And we punish ourselves for missing it.

What if you didn’t?

Krista Williams from Almost 30 joins me on this week’s episode of the 5% Club.

Link to listen in bio.

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner, Shayla

Not fat. Not fit. That was the window.

I grew up believing if you were overweight, you were lazy.

If you had abs, you were vain. Selfish.

You clearly didn’t have real things going on in your life.
So you stayed in the middle.
Not too much. Not too little. Just acceptable.

I didn’t grow up with a gym membership.
Never learned a healthy habit at home.

And somewhere along the way I absorbed the belief that a woman who was seriously fit wasn’t to be
taken seriously intellectually.

No one taught me that directly.
I just watched.
My nervous system learned the rules.
These are not just personal beliefs.
They are inherited ones.
And they run the show until you name them.

Krista Williams from Almost 30 is my guest on this week’s 5% Club.
This conversation gets into all of it.

Listen to The 5% Club on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube

Your coach, cheerleader, and accountability partner, Shayla