Petra Tulonen

We don’t heal in isolation, we heal in connection with another, in relationships that allow our raw expression and in shared experiences that allow us to show up as our true selves.

We can do so much healing on our own but where we truly heal is in relationship to another.

We can learn a lot about ourselves and do the inner work but where we really become aware of ourselves is in relationship to another.

That’s why group containers and 1:1 work are so powerful. Because you are being mirrored, seen and witnessed at the same time. You are being held in each other’s nervous systems. You share the capacity to hold the space. You support each other by merely just being present. You each bring in your unique embodied wisdom. And without saying word, you can feel this embodiment and energetic exchange.

❤️‍🔥 Ready to step into your power?

I have a few spaces open for 1:1 FOUNDATION - journey. A 12 week journey where you will build a proper foundation for long lasting changes. I will combine all my knowledge and bodily wisdom in this coaching container - with Nutritional Therapy, Somatic Coaching and body based practices we will build a healthy terrain that supports your growth. And we will make sure that the change is rooted into the body so that the wisdom you gain here will serve you the years to come. Link in bio.

Change requires both courage and capacity to feel uncomfortable❤️‍🔥

When you cannot unsee the behaviour patterns and beliefs that have risen to the surface - what do you do with them?

💜 Do you try to pretend they do not exist or do you allow them space to breathe?

💜 Do you avoid witnessing them and keep yourself busy or do you sit down with them and look them in the eye?

💜 Do you try to grab a hold of the old or do you courageously lean towards the new?

💜 Do you spin a story around it and get stuck in the past or do you accept what was while choosing to let it go?

There comes a time when decision must be made. The new doesn’t arrive until we choose to let go of what doesn’t serve us any longer. The past patterns, experiences and beliefs will be with you as long as you confront them with compassion. But that’s not enough. What is also needed in order to move forward is willingness to do choose differently.

✨ Willingness to try something new.
✨ Willingness to say no to the old ways even when they feel familiar and comfortable.
✨ Willingness to be the first one to go.
✨ Willingness to be the beginner.
✨ Willingness to fail.
✨ Willingness to step out into the unknown, surrender and trust.

Change requires courage and trust. It requires capacity to sit with an array of emotions. It requires both the ability to act and the ability to pause and reflect. It requires the willingness to sit with uncomfortable feelings. Change requires the ability to try new ways that feel uncomfortable at first.

✨Often the path worth taking is not the easiest but it will be the most rewarding. ✨

What if the best is yet to come?💫

What is Spinal Attunement?

I’m so excited to offer this method as it speaks to my soul and feels so natural to my system. Working with the energy feels like coming back home. And did I already mention how gentle but powerful this method is.

This is the way and if you feel called to try it, message me as your body is already responding to the field ✨

You are allowed to feel angry for the boundaries that got crossed.

You are allowed to grieve the loss that you have experienced.

You are allowed to feel disappointed when the support you would have needed didn’t show up.

You are allowed to feel the fear when opening your heart for love scares you.

You are allowed to feel sad when the people you counted on leave you.

You are allowed to feel joyful even in the middle of hardships.

You are allowed to feel everything and anything that arises in your being.

You are allowed to own
your grief,
your anger,
your rage,
your frustration,
your fear,
your joy,
your belonging,
your not knowing.

Feelings, emotions or sensations are never the problem. They are the solution. They only turn problematic when we suppress them instead of expressing them. When we internalise them instead of voicing them out. That’s when they start to show up as challenges and chronic symptoms in the body.

Spinal Attunement combines the anatomy of both the physical and energetic systems. And it gently shifts the nervous system from sympathetic dominance into parasympathetic regulation.

The energetic system maps directly onto the nervous system. The nervous system and the endocrine system together create a neuroendocrine field which can be accessed through the spine. Through unwinding the tension patterns in the spine, we can access and release these long held patterns in the body and in our energetic field.

In person Spinal Attunement sessions available in Southern Finland in August. Message me if you’re curious to try something different ✨

Spinal Attunement

Last year through somatic work I got back in touch with my sensitivity. Something so familiar awaked again in my system. However before this was possible, I had to face the wound and get back in touch with the emotions underneath it. Through this process I claimed back a part of me who feels deeply. A part that senses with clarity and trusts the intuitive nudges. A part that acts with instinct. A part that just knows.

Through this exploration I started sensing energy and experiment with it. I knew I was reconnecting with something profound so I put an intention out in order to find a mentor to guide me on this journey. And it didn’t take long for and to arrive into my world. I knew immediately that this is it. My first intention to join a training didn’t work as the dates didn’t align. However I found a new felt sense of trust and surrender with this delay. I just knew that it wasn’t the time yet. So I waited until the opportunity opened up and I felt the calling to join. That’s how I ended up doing this training in the Netherlands. And what an incredible journey it has been✨

I am done hiding this side of me that feels so at home in the energetic realms. The unseen has always walked by my side and I am ready to finally hold its hand - to reclaim the gifts I’ve been given and boldly use them❤️‍🔥

Japan - a trip that turned into a deep dive 🇯🇵

The past 2 weeks I’ve been taking in so much new while also integrating so much old. As much as I would like to tell you that this trip to Japan was a dream come true, I must admit that even though it was that, it ended up being so much more.

Within these 2 weeks I got my bleed, caught a cold (which ended up becoming a big purge) and my ankle started hurting stopping me from exploring. With the physical symptoms came the deep dive into the emotional underworld. I sat with old thought patterns and unexpressed emotions. I faced parts of me that wanted to give up. I held the parts of me that needed holding. I cried the tears that had been held in. There was resistance, frustration, anger and grief. But through the simple act of being able to stay with these emotions, they started to shift and bring clarity to the surface. And the integration continues especially now that I’ve landed back home. The person I was before this trip doesn’t exist any longer - and for that I’m grateful.

What has been coming up for me lately again and again is truth as my core value. I have zero interest in performing, pretending that everything is only good or trying to fit into boxes any longer. I’m interested in the whole truth; the good, the bad and the ugly. During this process of owning my ability to feel and sense deeply I’ve also had to own my emotional depth. The ability to sense and feel life so fully. And where it has felt like a disadvantage before, I’m starting to feel the gift that comes with having a deeply attuned and sensitive system. The shift has been real and I’m so looking forward to seeing what’s going to unfold from here on.

Life has been wild since February, things are unfolding at a different speed. And I have a feeling that June won’t be any different.

How is life treating you? Have you experienced shifts recently?💫

https://youtu.be/HDoyT0w0Tb0?is=B852tJo2nwYgKna7

Olin vieraana Muutos-podcastin 9.jaksossa, jossa jaan ensimmäistä kertaa omaa tarinaa ja niitä kipeimpiäkin kokemuksia, joiden kautta olen löytänyt elämäntehtäväni ja sen kuka tänäpäivänä olen. Jaan myös vinkkejä kehoyhteyden vahvistamiseen ja rajojen asettamiseen.

Puhutaan Kaisan kanssa avoimesti parisuhdeväkivallasta, traumoista ja niiden vaikutuksesta arkeen. Ja vaikka olen tiennyt jo pitkään, että mun on tarkoitus puhua näistä asioista avoimesti, tämä keskustelu toi pintaan paljon tunteita ja haavoittuvaisuutta💜 Toivon sydämeni pohjasta, että tämä keskustelu löytää oikeat kuulijat ja auttaa edes yhtä eteenpäin omassa tilanteessa💜

Käy kuuntelemassa, jos aiheet resonoi ja kerro ihmeessä, mitä ajatuksia jakso herätti🥰

The opposite of love is indifference.

Letting yourself love deeply, means letting yourself feel deeply. Letting yourself feel deeply means letting yourself receive deeply. Letting yourself receive deeply means letting yourself give with open arms.

Opening up to the experience of unconditional love has been a life long journey. It’s been easier and safer to stay indifferent. It’s been easier to not care too much. It’s been easier to keep the wall up. It’s been easier to hide behind a mask than let myself be truly seen.

Letting yourself be felt also means letting others feel you. Letting yourself get close to others means letting people in. And letting people in means allowing yourself to love so deeply that sometimes it hurts. To care so deeply that the feeling shatters something inside you with its intensity.

Not many understand this kind of feeling and it can feel felt both a blessing and a curse. Until you integrate this part of your being and just let yourself feel every part of the experience. Every nuance and wave of emotion that runs through your being. Moving you in ways that you’ve never let yourself move. Feeling in such a new ways that you’ve forgot how deeply you naturally feel things.

Allowing yourself to feel
Allowing yourself to be emotional
Allowing yourself to be “dramatic”
Allowing yourself to be “too much”
Allowing yourself to be fully you and so welcome back home another part of your being.

Oh how I’ve missed you, the deep well of emotions. Meeting again the darker shades of emotions that used to pull me under the water and welcoming back the lighter shades of emotions that lift me back up again. Growing my capacity to hold both ends of the experience has taken some time. Not drowning, not bypassing but staying grounded within my being. Holding arms wide open both the light and dark in integration.

Because without the depth, you cannot feel the high. Without the darkness you cannot see the light. Without the intensity, you cannot feel the grounded calm. Blocking one side, blocks also the other.

And I came here for the whole experience 🤍🖤

Every pattern is here for a reason, they all have a job to do until you free them by witnessing them.

My sensitivity and ability to feel deeply has been something that I’ve been reclaiming the past 2 years. This something that I’m in the process of building even a deeper relationship with. And every step I take on this path shows me why I had to shut it down when I was younger. I’ve seen in many ways why staying disconnected from my body was the right protection pattern for me as all the sensations, emotions and feelings lived there. I did not have the capacity to witness, feel and hold space for these sensations, emotions and feelings. It would have been too overwhelming for my system so the only way to manage it was to shut it down and disconnect.

And as I always say, every protective pattern, every challenge, every symptom is here for a reason. They all have a job to do until we do the work and witness them. Until we come back home to our being and free them from these jobs. The part of you that didn’t have the capacity to face what was happening creates a protective pattern in order to cope. A mask or behaviour pattern that holds the original wound in a shadow. And this is a good example of that. I can’t say what would have happened without this pattern of disconnection but I feel grateful for it and how it helped me to survive. I can clearly see the value of it and the wisdom behind it.

Meeting yourself fully means meeting the parts of you that got lost on the way. Meeting the parts that got buried under the masks and protection patterns. And often the biggest gifts are buried in the darkest places. My sensitivity that for a long time felt like a burden is starting to turn into gold. The way I can sense the unseen, feel energy and through that guide people is what I’ve found on the other side of this protection pattern.

Whenever you witness parts of you that have been in the unconscious, you will also free energy that was unconsciously used to push these parts down. And you’re one step closer to your truest self.

Reclaiming the gift is the prize for the inner work❤️‍🔥

LIFE LATELY

I’ve been quiet here for quite some time now. I’ve taken time to try out my Finnish account and writing in Finnish. But something keeps calling me back here. And for one it’s my love for the language and expressing myself in English, so I’m back. How will I manage 2 accounts, no idea but I keep following the instinct.

Intuition and instincts have been loud lately. And through making big life decisions, I’ve noticed how much more I am able to trust my instincts and inner knowing.

✨In moments where I used to doubt, feel anxious or restless, is taking place now quiet confidence in the felt sense experience.

✨ In moments where I used to avoid the truth and pretend it’s not there, is taking place now courage to confront the change that wants to take place in my life.

✨ In moments where I would look for reassurance from the external, is taking place now this calm inner authority that matters more than anything else.

✨ In moments where I used to escape to the mind and look for explanations, is taking place now clarity without the need to make sense or explain.

And the change didn’t just happen on its own but through continuous self reflection and inner work. And the biggest initiation on this journey has been the abusive relationship I was in. It was the first place where I clearly felt an instinct and ignored it. And through that experience I started to build a relationship with my instincts and intuitive knowing. Learning to listen to your body and its instincts means getting it wrong sometimes too. As often the moments you don’t listen become your biggest initiation ❤️‍🔥

What is your relationship with your intuition and instincts? And thank you for being here 🤍